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Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Questions to Create Your Ideal Life

With the excitement of the new year all around us, several people have asked me for recommendations on what the best self-help product on the market is, and if they could only dedicate themselves to just one product this year, which one would it be? Truthfully, it’s hard for me to narrow it down to just one; however, I did stumble upon a resource recently that has brought about noticeable results in my life. If you haven’t discovered them yet, you’re in for a treat! They’re called Afformations, by Noah St. John.

Yes, you read that correctly. They’re called Afformations, not Affirmations. Affirmations are phrases you repeat regularly in order to change your self-talk, or what you say to yourself on a regular basis. They can be highly effective in changing the way you see yourself, and therefore your results in the world. However, some people have difficulty with them because they just can’t get behind some of the things they’re saying. For example, if you’re trying to increase your cash flow and avoid foreclosure on your home, you might have difficulty affirming to yourself, “I am a millionaire. I have all the money I need.”

Afformations, on the other hand, are questions you ask yourself whereby you assume that whatever you are trying to create or attract has already manifested in your life. By asking yourself the question from a position of having versus lacking, your mind goes about looking for information to fill in the gaps! Afformations allow you to bypass all the objections or resistance your mind might put up with typical affirmations, because they assume that what you want is already a given and therefore no convincing of the mind is required! Essentially, Afformations are “empowering questions that cause your mind to focus on what you really want, and stop focusing on what you don’t want.”

Think about it, whenever you ask yourself a question your mind immediately goes off in search of an answer. Try it now. Ask yourself, “Why is the sky blue?” Didn’t your mind immediately try to find an answer to the question, even though it's a question most of us don't have an answer to? The problem is that the majority of us tend to ask ourselves negative questions all day long, like, “Why don’t things ever work out for me? Why doesn’t my boss like me? Why is life so hard?” By learning to ask yourself positive questions instead, you change your subconscious thought patterns from negative to positive and huge results will follow soon after!

Here’s how to create Afformations that will change your life:

Step 1: Ask yourself what you want.
Hopefully you already know what it is you want, but if not, get busy finding out! This could be anything, from getting a promotion, to losing weight, to simply finding more inner peace and happiness within yourself. Your goal can be as large or small as you want it to be.

Step 2: Create a question that assumes that what you want is already true.
Next, come up with a question that implies that you already have whatever it is you want, or that a specific condition or situation is already a part of your life. The creator of Afformations recommends phrasing all your questions beginning with the word “Why?” So you could ask yourself questions like:

• Why am I so rich?
• Why am I so happy?
• Why do things always work out for me?
• Why do people like me so much?
• Why does my marriage keep getting better and better, every single day?

And that’s it!

Now, you don't ever have to actually answer the new questions you are asking yourself. That’s not the point. Your subconscious mind will take care of all that for you. The key is in asking yourself better questions, and changing the focus of your mind. As you ask yourself better questions and steer your mind in a new direction, you shift the focus of your mind from a state of lack to having what you want. We all know that we get what we focus on, so eventually those things you are wanting will become a part of your life!

A note about taking action: I’ll be honest with you, I’ve found results from Afformations without even consciously introducing action into the equation. In my experience, once you begin asking yourself more empowering questions, you just naturally begin taking more action that lines up with what you want to create. It won’t even feel like taking action to you, because it will feel so natural and inevitable! Obviously, if you want to speed up your results, you can begin taking action that lines up with your new questions. For example, if one of your new questions to yourself is, “Why are my investments always so successful?”, you could go on-line and research various investment strategies. That's an example of an action step that would line up with your new question.

I listen to Afformations recordings almost every night as I fall asleep, and occasionally during the day on my iPod for reinforcement. I've been using them for about three months now, and not only do I feel more optimistic about the things I'm trying to create, but I can just tell that my mind works differently. Rather than focusing on the problem, I catch my mind looking for solutions! The things I want feel like a given, rather than some far-off question mark.

To learn more about this powerful resource, go here. This could be just the tool you've been looking for, that helps you finally create a life you're crazy about! You can thank me later:)


  1. Mary,
    Thanks so much for sharing your experience with Afforemations. I have had this book for a while and will committ to asking myself empowering questions. It's so good to know that you had wonderful results with Afforemations!

  2. Mary: This is Noah St. John, the inventor of Afformations.

    Thank you very much for the post. I'm honored and thrilled you're getting so much for your Afformations.

    By the way, your readers can get the first 3 chapters of The Book of Afformations (free) at

    Afformations [dot] com

    Hope this helps you, too.

    Ask away,

  3. Thanks for your comment, Noah! I feel honored that you stopped by:) And thanks for inventing Afformations! They are truly a great product, which I recommend to everyone.

  4. Hi Marina, thanks for your comment! And get busy with your Afformations! They really do work:) Best of luck to you.

  5. Mary, am glad you wrote about Noah St. John's Afformation.

    I first learned about it from John Counsel on 19 September 2009. I downloaded the free first three chapters of his books (Afformations and The Secret Code of Success). I applied afformations immediately. In just few days I found my right internet business mentor, after 3 years of searching!

    Hope your readers would also check it out and experience for themselves the wonders of Afformations.


  6. I purchased and read Noah's book last fall and have a list of afformations I review periodically, but I never thought about recording them and listening to them throughout the day (or at night). That's an awesome idea and one I plan to put into practice asap. Thanks for the suggestion!

  7. Write down some affirmations and choose the one that seems more believable to you. Address one issue at a time and repeat your chosen affirmation as much as you can, and whenever you remember. But the average schedule of 10 times three times a day works usually well.
    Self Esteem Affirmations

  8. Have you read "Secret of the Ages" by Robert Collier? Or anything by Mandino. I think you would enjoy the books they have available.

    They are a bit harder to find. Worth the effort though!