tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-64209830008856775912024-02-18T23:24:39.477-08:00Self Help Goddess BlogSelf Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-71468336026320147762010-06-08T12:04:00.001-07:002010-06-23T08:31:13.074-07:00An Ocean of Abundance<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiLleo1S9kgs6u8AELv29UdnPn_yuAKOafqQr5e5sSPN87wa_4BEO88Kang6Rgc2tiITLV7Ijp4POpyKNSyEE7-Dyd-F4yvazgFXnJhyphenhyphenF727VMjHTds-jSM1R6WneOTk4RMPAQsTdS5gRI/s1600/revenue-streams.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 151px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiLleo1S9kgs6u8AELv29UdnPn_yuAKOafqQr5e5sSPN87wa_4BEO88Kang6Rgc2tiITLV7Ijp4POpyKNSyEE7-Dyd-F4yvazgFXnJhyphenhyphenF727VMjHTds-jSM1R6WneOTk4RMPAQsTdS5gRI/s200/revenue-streams.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5485984147491040370" /></a><br />Lately I've been receiving a ton of coaching requests for people who want to work on attracting more money into their lives. Not surprising considering that money is typically one of people's biggest concerns! Lucky for me, I have a pretty good grasp on my money vibe and I'm able to show others how to attract it quickly and easily. (For more details about coaching with me, go <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/coaching.html"><b>here</b></a>.)<br /><br />One of my favorite ways for increasing the money flow in my life is doing the exercise below on a regular basis. This particular description comes from Louise Hay's newest book, <a href="http://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/click?id=3/0E/CcK/ZM&offerid=139925.10000429&type=2&subid=0">Modern-Day Miracles</a><IMG border=0 width=1 height=1 src="http://ad.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/show?id=3/0E/CcK/ZM&bids=139925.10000429&type=2&subid=0" >, but I've actually spoken about this <a href="http://blog.selfhelpgoddess.com/2009/05/are-you-open-to-receiving.html">before</a> ("Are You Open to Receiving?"). <br /><br />From Louise Hay:<br /><br /><em>Your prosperity consciousness is not dependent on money; your flow of money is dependent upon your prosperity consciousness. As you are able to conceive of more, more will come into your life. </em><br /><br /><strong>"Visualize standing at the seashore, looking out at the vast ocean and knowing that it reflects the abundance that is available to you. Look down at your hands and see what sort of container you’re holding. Is it a teaspoon, a thimble with a hole in it, a paper cup, a glad, a tumbler, a pitcher, a bucket, a washtub—or perhaps you have a pipeline connected to this ocean of abundance? Look around you and notice that no matter how many people there are and no matter what kind of container they have, there is plenty for everyone. You cannot rob another, and they cannot rob you. And in no way can you drain the ocean dry. Your container is your consciousness, and it can always be exchanged for a larger container." </strong><br /><br /><em>Do this exercise often to experience feelings of expansion and unlimited supply.</em><br /><br />Now let me ask you:<br /><br /><font color=#6699CC><b>How did you feel doing that exercise?<br /><br />What sort of container did you see yourself holding? <br /><br />Were you able to really feel the abundance pouring into your body and your life, or did you notice yourself trying to push it away and resist it?</font color></b><br /><br />I've been having great success using the pipeline image, but don't beat yourself up if you're not there yet. I tried a similar exercise a year ago, and didn't feel comfortable accepting that much abundance into my life. The more often you do this exercise, the more comfortable you'll get holding a larger container, which will lead to larger and larger amounts of money and abundance flowing into your life!<br /><br />The truth is, there is already a constant flow of money and abundance in our world, which surrounds us at all times and is ready to be tapped into. <b>However, WE are the ones who are preventing it from reaching us, by our constant preoccupation with not having enough and our focus on lack.</b> <br /><br /><font color=#6699CC><b>Remember, what we focus on is what we create! </font color></b><br /><br />Therefore, the more you focus on not having enough money, worrying about how you'll pay your bills at the end of the month, anticipating that you'll run out of funds, etc., the more you will continue to create that in your world. <br /><br />Trust me, though: <i>You can experience abundance at all times, no matter what the economy is doing, no matter what type of job you have, etc., by keeping your attention on HAVING abundance, rather than lacking it. </i> This is easier said than done, but by spending time visualizing unlimited prosperity and really feeling like there is always enough to go around (like you did in the exercise above), you will begin to manifest that exact same scenario in your life!<br /><br />You can also use this exercise with respect to <font color=#FF0066><b>love</b></font color>, if that's something you'd like to see more of in your reality. Rather than imagining an ocean of abundance, simply imagine an ocean of love that is overflowing, unending, and just pouring into your life. As long as you are open to accepting it, it will be yours!<br /><br />For a really great resource on attracting more money into your life, I highly recommend <a href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=944064">Money Mojo Magic</a>, by master law of attraction coach, Jeannette Maw. This is a super affordable resource that explains exactly how to change your energy in order to quickly create more wealth in your life. And it really works: <em>I literally started making more money the exact same night I finished the ebook!</em> Get more details <a href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=944064"><b>here</b></a>.Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com40tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-71069684064316028042010-06-03T07:24:00.000-07:002010-06-08T09:13:36.676-07:00Are You Playing Small?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJB5k2iNGrS-dJh5sli9Y3yyUC4fTNPHgpPMeOCBJ_odEXOg7PUwyo2JlsGBIIJtjTmUo1kevcts7Dwr7Kc52scI_hCz8fNJlvtnouhiLrEKr9bNa93RUPzX1OeSXdATcq_XXnr1_SD70/s1600/Marianne+Williamson.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 254px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJB5k2iNGrS-dJh5sli9Y3yyUC4fTNPHgpPMeOCBJ_odEXOg7PUwyo2JlsGBIIJtjTmUo1kevcts7Dwr7Kc52scI_hCz8fNJlvtnouhiLrEKr9bNa93RUPzX1OeSXdATcq_XXnr1_SD70/s320/Marianne+Williamson.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5480436454720918306" /></a><br /><font color=CC0066>"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us."</font color><br />~Marianne Williamson<br /><br />I think it’s fair to assume that most people on the spiritual path (and several people not on the path) have heard or read the above quote by Marianne Williamson. I love it so much that it appears in part at the top of the <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com">homepage</a> on my website, because I want everyone who visits my site to see it! <br /><br />However, it’s scary for some of us to shine our lights as brightly as we are capable, and I’d even venture to say that the majority of people out there struggle with this issue at some point in their lives. In fact, <strong>I’ll even go so far as to say that a lot of the unhappiness and dissatisfaction in the world today comes from an unwillingness or inability to shine one’s light and truly express the greatness that we each are.</strong> We hold ourselves back from being all that we can be, and yet inside we are growing more and more unhappy because we are not expressing our potential and pursuing our passions.<br /><br />If this resonates with you at all, I’d like to suggest trying the exercise below. <br /><br /><em>It might just be the thing you need to feel more comfortable shining your bright light and expressing your true gifts and talents to the world!</em> <br /><strong><u><br />Here's the exercise: </strong></u><br /><br />Think of a particular area in life where you seem to struggle to get ahead. It’s probably an area where you <em>know </em>you have a lot of potential and have huge dreams, but even after months or years of effort things just don’t seem to be going the way you want them to. <br /><br />Now, ask yourself this question: <strong>Who do you worry will feel upset or uncomfortable if you grow too "big for your britches?"</strong> <br /><br />(This question comes from this <a href="http://www.kendallsummerhawk.com/blog/business-development/are-you-energetically-blocking-your-list-from-growing?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+KendallSummerhawk+%28Kendall+SummerHawk%29">blog post</a> by Kendall SummerHawk.)<br /><br />Next, jot down the first answer that comes to mind, even if it doesn’t make any sense. It might be a parent, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker, etc. Write down all the people that come to mind when you ask yourself this question. At first you might not see the connection, or you may <em>totally </em>see the connection. Either way, the reason why you’ve been holding yourself back should begin to make sense! <br /><br />If you’re struggling in a particular area where you’ve been trying to get ahead, you may be subconsciously holding yourself back because you fear that someone (often in your past) will be resentful of you or react negatively if you succeed or show your true brilliance to the world. Even if it doesn’t consciously make sense to you, or even if the person is not <em>consciously </em>trying to hold you back, at some point in time, on some level, <strong>it's possible you decided that in order to avoid resentment or negative feelings on their part, you would play small.</strong><br /><br />Once you've identified someone in response to the question above, see your answer begins to shine some light on the issue. This may be enough to shift the issue right then and there. <strong>Can you see how you've been holding yourself back to avoid discomfort or resentment on the part of someone else?</strong> Or maybe you simply don't want to outshine a parent or sibling, who you think might be left behind if you pursue your dreams and achieve success. Or maybe you're scared that a spouse or romantic partner may not adjust well to your new, brighter identity.<br /><br />In fact, there are a variety of reasons why you may not want to grow too "big for your britches" because you're scared of the reaction of someone else, and the answer will vary with each person who tries this exercise. The key is to do the exercise and see what comes up for you. Sometimes just the awareness is enough to create resolution, but if not you may have to dig a little deeper. Regardless, the answer lies within you, and once you find it you are well on your way to shining your light in the world and creating the life of your dreams! <br /><br />For more tips and techniques like the one above, be sure to check out my ebook, <b><i><a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpebook.html">Secrets to Creating Your Ideal Life</a></b></i>. It has been called "one of the most useful self-help books I have read" and "an amazing resource for anyone who wants to make big, positive changes in their life." More details <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpebook.html"><b>here</b></a>!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-72305521317299744112010-05-25T07:58:00.000-07:002010-05-25T09:22:24.029-07:00Keeping a Gratitude/Evidence Journal<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1nYuM5WYiKOUUWFDJwVBgFQMffAEBde068EF791-YOu5cbS_qTCV4kur5h4OpU51nY2Hbyr8caNfJDeaPZkGKOoB2rOQkcSo2lSymRhO1HRBdVfcga8TReQSa6vxQRFpfJpVKOtsQPLY/s1600/journalingmoms-facebook.bmp"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 144px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1nYuM5WYiKOUUWFDJwVBgFQMffAEBde068EF791-YOu5cbS_qTCV4kur5h4OpU51nY2Hbyr8caNfJDeaPZkGKOoB2rOQkcSo2lSymRhO1HRBdVfcga8TReQSa6vxQRFpfJpVKOtsQPLY/s200/journalingmoms-facebook.bmp" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5475243780643437330" /></a><br />This is a great new technique I recently came up with, although I certainly can’t take all the credit for it. It’s a combination of a few popular techniques which I’ve heard about from different sources over the years, and I’ve simply combined them into a fun and easy tool to assist you in raising your overall vibration and quickly manifesting your desires. <br /> <br />You’ve probably heard of <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelp-gratitude.html">gratitude journals</a> (you might even keep one!), in which you list things in your journal every day that you are grateful for in your life. Oprah made these popular awhile back when she admitted that keeping a gratitude journal was the single biggest practice that changed her life. You may have also heard of positive evidence journals, which are popular in law of attraction circles, and used to track evidence that something you are desiring to manifest is on its way to you now. <br /><br /><strong><font color=#DF0174>Rather than keeping two separate journals, I decided to combine the two! I've been doing this for about two weeks now and am really noticing a difference. </strong></font color><br /><br /><u><em>Here are the instructions:</em> </u> <br /><br />First, think of a goal or desire you'd like to try this process on. It's best to start with one desire, and once you begin getting results you can introduce new desires into the mix. Your goal or desire can either be something you’ve been trying to manifest for awhile now, or a more recent desire. It can be large or small, or something that means a lot to you or not so much (for example, the love of your life or parking spots close to your office). <br /><br />Then, every night before bed (or another similar time), take out a journal you’re going to dedicate to this practice and list five things in your life that you are grateful for and that are evidence that your particular manifestation is on its way to you now. Therefore, if you’re trying to manifest more abundance in your life, you could list such things like: <br /><br /><b>• “I found a ten-dollar bill in the laundry today.” <br />• “My boss bought me lunch today.”<br />• “I received a coupon in the mail for a restaurant I have been wanting to go to.” </b><br /><br />Once you’ve done that part of the exercise, then list five things you are grateful for IN ADVANCE of your manifestation coming true. <font color=#DF0174><b>This is where you get to use your creativity and imagination to go to the future and think about things you would like to come true with respect to the particular desire you are focusing on for this exercise. </font color></b> So if your manifestation had <em>already happened</em>, what would you be grateful for? Returning to the example of manifesting more abundance, you might list things like:<br /><br /><b>• “My boss told me I'm getting a raise! </b>(Even though this hasn't happened yet in your reality, it is something you hope to create.)<br /><b>• "My husband got an expected bonus at work!"<br />• "My ebook is selling hundreds of copies per month!"</b><br /><br />This exercise is extremely powerful and its potential is huge, so don’t underestimate its simplicity. <strong><font color=#DF0174>By focusing on evidence you have noticed in your life, no matter how large or small, you are focusing on the fact that your dream or desire IS in fact on its way to you.</strong></font color> This is particularly helpful on those days when you begin to doubt that what you want will ever come true,and will help keep you focused on what you want to attract. <br /><br />Furthermore, by being grateful for things <u>in advance</u>, you are not only raising your overall vibration, but you are actually setting the stage for those things to come to pass in your life. <i><b>What you focus on consistently becomes your reality, so the more you focus on what you want to create, the quicker and easier those things can come to you.</i></b> Finally, gratitude or appreciation are some of the highest vibrations you can flow. <br /><br />Doing the above will already go a long way in helping you manifest your goal or desire, but to *really* add some juice to this exercise, mix up the two categories when you list them rather than listing the two categories separately. This means that instead of listing five things you're grateful for now, and then five things you're grateful for in your future manifestation, mix them up in one list so there's no division between the two. <font color=#DF0174><b>This actually tricks your subconscious into thinking every single thing on your list has already come true, and as a result your subconscious gets busy creating results in your life ASAP.</font color></b> Once you start doing this on a regular basis, your goal or desire is practically a done deal!<br /><br />I have been doing this exercise for a few weeks now, and have been getting so much out of it I've decided to do it permanently. I hope you'll join me and report back to me on the fabulous results you're getting!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com19tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-1803048105456488522010-05-12T13:37:00.001-07:002010-05-17T07:53:48.515-07:00Allowing Miracles<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjf1vophMePovCJ7QF0qqQFZlmd8tUK70m8JeH3cuFPC-fWjUkVColHekhJxeK_hakwRS5wFaSbSu1HM69GBDKPDZzfHldBbyzH4Y3m6Fd9oqaCrn7XkY5QzGONrjQvaQzuDbCtCXO6U8Y/s1600/Africa+032.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 132px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjf1vophMePovCJ7QF0qqQFZlmd8tUK70m8JeH3cuFPC-fWjUkVColHekhJxeK_hakwRS5wFaSbSu1HM69GBDKPDZzfHldBbyzH4Y3m6Fd9oqaCrn7XkY5QzGONrjQvaQzuDbCtCXO6U8Y/s200/Africa+032.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5472251279252345298" /></a><br />If you saw my <a href="http://tinyurl.com/2uxw2m8">last blog post</a>, then you know I was recently in South Africa for work. I headed over there for two weeks to visit our South Africa office, and assist with a particular project that was falling behind schedule. However, the couple who runs the office was out of town for their anniversary and had no access to phones or email. Therefore, they had no idea I was coming, and more importantly, <em><font color=#009933>I had no idea if anyone would be there to pick me up at the airport or if I would even have a hotel room when I arrived! </em></font color><br /><br />Needless to say, as I prepared for my trip, several people around me were very anxious and asking a lot of questions: <br /><br /><strong>• Where would I stay? <br />• What city in particular was I going to? <br />• How would I get around? <br />• What about security issues? <br />• Would I have a security guard? <br />• Would I get to visit any of the national parks?</strong> <br /><br />I didn’t know the answers to these questions, and quite frankly I didn’t care. <font color=#009933><b>I was super excited, packed my bags, and got ready for a grand adventure! </font color></b>I literally boarded the plane not knowing which specific city I was going to in South Africa, or if anyone would be at the airport on the other end to pick me up. <br /><br />When I arrived, after a long 15-hour flight, I was thrilled to find that not only were there people at the airport to pick me up, but they were absolutely delightful and what ensued was two wonderful weeks that I will never forget. They were great people to work with on a daily basis, and they truly treated me as part of their family. I know I will be life-long friends with them. <br /><br />In addition to feeling so <font color=#FF0033><b>loved</font color></b> by them, they showed me all around their city, treated me to outdoor barbeques to sample all the local food, and even took me on an all-day safari on their dime, where we had the pleasure of seeing an elephant up close as he walked down the road directly in front of our jeep for a good thirty minutes (that's him above!). Not to mention, they drove me around every day, made sure I had everything I needed, and even taught me a few key phrases in Afrikaans. <br /><br />I tell this story because before I left, <em>I honestly had no idea what to expect.</em> I’d never been to South Africa before, but more importantly, I wasn’t really provided a lot of information about my trip. No one from my office had ever been, so in all fairness no one had much information to give me. It was just expected that I would get over there and figure it all out! <br /><br /><strong>However, and this is important, I TRUSTED that all would work out for me. <u>And it did!</u></strong> There is not a single thing I would change about my trip. I had a fabulous time, met some great people, and have memories to last a lifetime. <em><font color=#009933>I was open to experiencing miracles, and I did!</em></font color> Unfortunately, this is a quality I notice is missing in a lot of people who are not currently living lives they love or are very excited about. <br /><br />So many people spend the majority of their days worried or scared, about money, their boss, their job, their parents, their kids, their next vacation, and on and on and on. And yes, there are of course several things in our world and our lives that could go wrong on a daily basis. <font color=#009933><b>There are, however, also several things that could go RIGHT in our world and our lives on a daily basis, if we would just open ourselves up to them.</font color></b> Opportunities and miracles are everywhere, if we just allow them! <br /><br />I had no idea what to expect when I agreed to go to South Africa. In fact, the reason the trip was offered to me in the first place was because the person who was originally supposed to go backed out at the last minute. Rather than being scared about my trip and overly worried about the details, though, I trusted in the Universe and myself to make things work out for the best. <em>I always expect things to work out for me in the best possible way, and they usually do!</em> I expect to always be provided with enough money at the right time, and I am! <br /><br />Some might call this luck, but it’s really not luck at all. <strong>Our thoughts create our realities, and the more you focus on positive thoughts and expectations, the more positive experiences you will create in your life. </strong>This is not to say that sometimes you don’t have to exercise caution or common sense. However, in my world I would rather have a positive expectation that things will work out and deal with any issues that arise, versus always being on the lookout for things that could wrong. What about you? <br /><br />If you read my <a href="http://tinyurl.com/2uxw2m8">last post</a>, you’ll see that on my way home from South Africa I had planned to stop over in Paris for three days and take a bit of a vacation. Due to the volcano in Iceland, this turned into eight days! That’s an entire story in itself so I won’t go into the details here, but needless to say I had another chance to trust in the Universe and expect that everything would work out for me. <font color=#009933><b>And it did, just like magic!</font color> </b>;)Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-60974452434418171542010-05-02T14:35:00.000-07:002010-05-03T14:16:47.329-07:00Creating a Life You Love!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiH7hWmHrEqOWR-eX4nS-srRKg2OgPADRAkxL7a-Md9fgUgLOZKsydSx2FE8BZm3rZG4SAQcc282G2FZiDbGrT0G_H0t0CEeksYMdf5mNHkatVsi3kkWYydl-bOn8-3_TIxvQqNYZ2IyvM/s1600/paris.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiH7hWmHrEqOWR-eX4nS-srRKg2OgPADRAkxL7a-Md9fgUgLOZKsydSx2FE8BZm3rZG4SAQcc282G2FZiDbGrT0G_H0t0CEeksYMdf5mNHkatVsi3kkWYydl-bOn8-3_TIxvQqNYZ2IyvM/s200/paris.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5466851214561557314" /></a><br />If you’ve been wondering where I’ve been the past month or so, there's been a lot going on! I took a last minute two-week business trip to South Africa, and then ended up having an "extended" vacation in Paris due to the volcano in Iceland. During my almost month-long sabbatical from my regular life, I learned many very important and beneficial life lessons and will be posting several blogs in the upcoming weeks about what I learned. Keep your eyes on this space if you’re interested. <strong>Above all, I learned that LIFE IS GOOD and just keeps getting better! </strong> <br /><br />To make a long story short, I was returning to the States from South Africa and was planning on spending three days in Paris on the way home. Three days turned into eight days due to the volcano that closed down virtually all airports in Western Europe! After adjusting to the shock that I was literally “stuck” in Paris, I spent an additional five days creating an absolutely magical vacation. <em>What better way to turn an absolutely absurd situation into an excuse for loving myself and creating my ideal life!</em><br /><br />I *LOVE* Paris, absolutely love it. I'm a real Francophile and always have been. I lived there for two years following college and when I'm there things just fall into place for me like you would not believe. (More details in my <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpebook.html">ebook</a> if you're interested). I feel more connected to who I really am while in Paris, and part of me secretly wonders if I was French in a former life! <br /><br />However, I also noticed something interesting the other week while I was there. In addition to feeling extremely fulfilled every time I'm in Paris, <strong>I also go out of my way to create a life I love when I'm there.</strong> I'm out of my hotel super early every morning and don't come home until super late. I spend the days going to outdoor cafes, browsing in shops I love, dining at my favorite restaurants, journaling and relaxing in parks and gardens, taking pictures of the blooming flowers, etc. Everything I do in Paris is a *sensory* experience, from eating my favorite foods, to visiting museums and admiring the artwork, to sitting on the side of the Seine and really soaking in the atmosphere. <em>I make every minute count, and the same was true when I lived there, not just when I’m there on vacation.</em><br /><br />It got me thinking about my current life in Washington, DC. Just because I live in DC and not Paris, there’s no reason I can’t create a life I love here in DC just like I do when I’m in Paris! In many ways Washington is very similar to Paris, especially the particular neighborhood I live in. There are cafes, shops, bars, restaurants, outdoor markets, museums, giant cathedrals, parks, beautiful flowers, etc. However, I don't currently spend a lot of time actually enjoying these things and taking advantage of them like I do when I'm in Paris. That's when it hit me: it's time I stop wishing I lived in Paris and start revelling in my life here, right now!<br /><br /><strong>Let me ask you this: </strong>How many of you are actively creating a life you love on a daily basis, versus feeling sorry for yourself because you’re not currently experiencing your ideal career, or relationship, or living situation, or weight, etc? <em><u>That’s no excuse to not be creating your ideal life! </u></em> There are things you could be doing right now to enhance your enjoyment of life, even before that thing or situation you are wanting arrives. <strong>So start doing those things! </strong>Sure, it might not be *exactly* the same as if you were truly already living your ideal life, but it’s a start… a great start, in fact! <br /><br />The <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/lawofattraction.html">law of attraction</a> brings you more of whatever you spend the majority of your time focusing on and feeling. Therefore, the more time you spend in delicious feelings of happiness and fulfillment while entertaining thoughts about how much you love your life, the more the Universe will bring to you to match these thoughts and emotions, including your ideal job, weight, financial situation, relationship, etc. <em>Isn't this great news?!</em><br /><br />So I invite you to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start creating a life you love, right this very minute! Especially with summer right around the corner, now's a great time to commit to creating a life you're absolutely ecstatic about. Why not take the next few months to concentrate on doing activities that bring you joy and fill you with a sense of fulfillment and enjoyment, every single day? I'll definitely be doing this, and I encourage you to do the same! <br /><br />And be sure to check out my ebook, <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpebook.html"><b>Secrets to Creating Your Ideal Life</b></a>, to learn more about how I manifested my ideal life in Paris for two years straight out of college. It's all I could think about the other week when I was there!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-3287623080204333062010-03-18T09:15:00.000-07:002010-03-18T10:48:44.525-07:00Practicing Meaningful Habits<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjul2NDiQvMrG781IE0avi9P4QeMMXyLiGnly0uCU7e8R08oQCt7VjtQ3q1MG7jbO33SVnFhLg0VvEw8n5Y1gId7zfoNwa3TN43Q4zJ8ikITPHl1a7ZkSj6ZrBhezWrU9HAWqysAQ3yqJg/s1600-h/good+habits+bad+habits.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 198px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjul2NDiQvMrG781IE0avi9P4QeMMXyLiGnly0uCU7e8R08oQCt7VjtQ3q1MG7jbO33SVnFhLg0VvEw8n5Y1gId7zfoNwa3TN43Q4zJ8ikITPHl1a7ZkSj6ZrBhezWrU9HAWqysAQ3yqJg/s200/good+habits+bad+habits.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5450024923548892994" /></a><br />I’ll be honest, there are times when I don’t want to write a blog post. Actually, it’s not that I don’t <em>want</em> to, it’s that I can’t think of anything in particular that’s inspiring me to write an entire post. <br /><br />I always try to write about something that’s relevant to my life and hopefully to yours, and some days (or weeks!) I’m really just not feeling it. But (and this is a big BUT), <strong>I know that if I don’t write a post I will ultimately end up feeling worse than if I had just dug a little deeper to find an interesting topic to write about.</strong> Here, let me explain!<br /><br />Expressing myself creatively and speaking/writing about topics relating to creating your ideal life are true passions of mine. <em>They jazz me up and fill me with a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. </em> Also, connecting with other like-minded souls (like the people who read my blog) is very essential to my overall happiness. I don’t get a lot of one-on-one interaction in my “real” life with people who are as into these topics as I am, so connecting with people on-line is especially important to me. And during those weeks when I don’t publish a blog post or get a <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelp-newsletter.html">newsletter</a> out I can really feel a difference! I just feel off, a little sluggish, and less in-tune with my authentic self and overall purpose.<br /><br />So I’d like to use this opportunity to ask you: <strong>What are the things you do in your life that fill you up, inspire you, and allow you to express who you really are? </strong> First and foremost, do you have things like that in your life? If not, get busy discovering some! And more importantly, are you making these things an integral part of your life?<br /><br />Sure, we all lead super busy lives and situations pop up constantly that demand our time and attention. That’s a given. But the thing separates those who are merely surviving on a day-to-day basis from those who are really thriving on a daily basis is <em><u>a commitment to doing things that really fill you up and give you a sense of joy! </em> </u><br /><br />Take working out, for example. Anyone who works out knows that there are days when you just do NOT feel like exercising. Maybe you’re tired from a long day at the office, or you don’t want to get sweaty, or your energy is just really low. We’ve all been there. From years of experience, though, I know that if I give into my exhaustion and skip my workouts too many times in a row I will ultimately end up feeling worse than if I just exerted a little extra effort and did the workout. I do yoga 2-3 times a week these days, and even though there are days when I would honestly rather stay home and lounge on the couch, I know that I'll feel better after I do yoga than I would if I just stayed home and relaxed.<br /><br />The point of this blog post is to point out that yes, often in life there are things we don’t feel like doing. It would be so much easier to expend less energy and take the easy way out. <strong>But ask yourself how fulfilled you are living that way.</strong> I have a full-time job in addition to running my website and blog, and there are definitely times when it all gets to feel like too much. I also know, however, that I feel the most alive and fulfilled when I work on my website and blog. <em>When I let that go I can tell a huge difference in my energy levels, happiness, and overall satisfaction with life.</em><br /><br /><strong>If you are truly committed to living your ideal life (and I know you are since you are visiting my blog!), then you’ll want to find a way to include meaningful activities in your life that give you a sense of purpose, no matter how difficult you think that might be.</strong> If you have to reprioritize your schedule or cut certain activities out of your day all together, then go ahead and do that. If you have to let go of old friendships that are no longer adding anything to your growth and expansion, then that might be the path to take. Maybe you can start reading uplifting books on your subway commute to work in the morning, or for ten minutes every night before you go to bed. The point is, find a way to include things in your life that fill you up and give you a sense of aliveness. It make take a little more schedule juggling on your part, but you will be so glad you did!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-22150983193028440782010-03-08T10:17:00.000-08:002010-03-08T13:05:54.915-08:00Finding the Hidden Benefits<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjz24cGhIcNxwzCJwblCafOqvFZ8Xys0ceeCnU7AuaDOaLeXuM0IG_STfU8G9POmwUTpDnCtiBbQce13TCjd5Qqajlo7QXbSKh5c_D-sWBF2_n0N7SNuOkBP-cLdWmkyEsPVJtZ7CR7BVs/s1600-h/benefits1.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 146px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjz24cGhIcNxwzCJwblCafOqvFZ8Xys0ceeCnU7AuaDOaLeXuM0IG_STfU8G9POmwUTpDnCtiBbQce13TCjd5Qqajlo7QXbSKh5c_D-sWBF2_n0N7SNuOkBP-cLdWmkyEsPVJtZ7CR7BVs/s200/benefits1.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446372197424418130" /></a><br />This post is for those of you who’ve been trying to create something in your life for awhile now, but just can’t seem to make it happen. Rather than staying stuck in a place of sheer frustration, this post will show you how to take responsibility for the circumstances you've been experiencing and move out of them once and for all! <br /><br />I'm going to be honest with you and cut to the chase: If there’s something you’ve been wanting for a long time but nothing has changed in your life, <em>it’s possible that some part of you doesn’t really want that thing or situation you’re trying to create</em>! Obviously, this assumes that you’ve actually been expending energy and effort trying to get this thing to work, otherwise your lack of effort is the reason behind why you’re not succeeding. <br /><br />But if you’ve been making an honest attempt at trying to lose those last five lbs., or trying to make more money on-line from your website, or deepening your relationship with your spouse or children, or attracting new like-minded individuals into your life, etc., and still nothing is budging, <strong>then that usually means that something inside of you is not entirely on-board with whatever it is you think you’re wanting. </strong> <br /><br />I know what you’re thinking! <u>You're convinced there’s no possible way this is true.</u> After all, you want this thing or situation SO badly, so it can’t possibly be true that part of you *doesn’t* want it. However, while this is not necessarily a case of self-sabotage, it <em>is</em> likely that there’s a hidden subconscious reason why you’re not making as much progress with your particular goal as you'd like. <em>So let's take a closer look at these subconscious motivations and bring conscious awareness to why you might be staying stuck in an experience you thought you so desperately wanted out of!</em><br /><br />Even though I get asked out regularly on my fair share of dates, I’ve been single (not in a serious relationship) for awhile now. And even though it would be pretty easy to blame this on the fact that I’m just not getting asked out by the “right” guys, I’m also not doing a whole heck of a lot to put myself out there to meet my match! Ultimately I do think I would like to be married and have a family, but I also wonder if there’s some part of me that isn’t entirely committed to being in a long-term relationship. Otherwise, I would probably already be in one! <br /><br />Can you relate to this? Maybe it’s not in the area of relationships, but in some area of your life where you think you’re committed to one thing but the results seem to show otherwise?<br /><br />So, what to do when this happens? Hint: beating yourself up is not the answer! <br /><br /><strong>Instead, spend some time investigating whether there are any hidden benefits to your situation being the way it is now. </strong> Take out your journal or a piece of paper and at the top write, “Benefits of My Current Situation.” Next, list as many benefits (at least 5) as you can come up with regarding your situation as it is right now. You might have to stretch your mind a little at first and look at your situation in a whole new light, but go ahead and do that! <i>Not only will doing this exercise help you uncover (possible) hidden motives behind your desires, but it will also help release any resistance you may be flowing around this particular area of your life. </i><br /><br />For example, in my case it might look like:<br /><br /><u>Benefits of My Current Situation:</u><br /><br />• I have complete freedom to spend my time however I want<br />• I don’t have to check in with anyone<br />• I don’t have to worry about anyone but myself<br /><br />Oftentimes just uncovering the hidden motivations are enough to clear up the issue. By bringing them to light, you are able to see things you weren't previously aware of. <br /><br /><strong>If this exercise doesn't clear things up, however, you'll want to find a way to reconcile what you are ultimately trying to create with the benefits you are experiencing from your current situation. </strong>For example, in my situation I am enjoying being single because it allows me to experience freedom, but that doesn't mean I have to forego relationships all together! It just means I would be well-served to find a relationship that provides me with a great deal of freedom, as well as closeness. <br /><br />If you've been trying to lose weight but uncover some hidden benefits of staying your current size (maybe you don't want to have to buy all new clothes to fit your new size!), then you'll want to find a way to reconcile your overall desire to lose weight with your desire to not have to buy a whole new wardrobe. For example, maybe your sister is the same size as your desired size and you can take over some of her old clothes. <strong>Be creative and find ways to reconcile your two desires! </strong><br /><br />Whether we want to admit it or not, there is always some reason why we are in the situations we are in, and it's usually not because the Universe is against us! Even if our motivations are subconscious and hidden from us, they are always there, driving our behavior. If you're finding that the actions you're taking are not lining up with the results you had hoped to achieve, do the exercise above to see if you have any hidden benefits to your current situation that might be preventing you from moving forward. You might be surprised by what you find!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-61754229917532807722010-03-03T08:27:00.000-08:002010-03-03T10:10:25.895-08:00Scripting Your Ideal Life<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgajDfUoqIngkW5JiOWDTDWEm76IjEdML8HHd85p_Vuxk9yYXPDOp-p2qHNtfGpAnwOVb0RNQThKSVVLGsGvqL6OUehfX-xWIQCi5ThnNhT2dexTGeR5clyMrAsPo24674lRiNcnJBbODA/s1600-h/consciousness.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 146px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgajDfUoqIngkW5JiOWDTDWEm76IjEdML8HHd85p_Vuxk9yYXPDOp-p2qHNtfGpAnwOVb0RNQThKSVVLGsGvqL6OUehfX-xWIQCi5ThnNhT2dexTGeR5clyMrAsPo24674lRiNcnJBbODA/s200/consciousness.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5444463595630155874" /></a><br />For the past few weeks I’ve been leading weekly scripting calls over at my new favorite hangout on the web, <a href="http://www.goodvibeuniversity.com/index.cfm?affID=SHGoddess">Good Vibe University</a>. Scripting is the practice of speaking about something you’d like to manifest as if it’s already happened, i.e. that thing or situation is already a part of your life. <br /><br />At first this can seem a bit awkward, because when most of us talk about things we want, we talk about them from a place of lack. These things haven't made an appearance in our realities yet, and therefore we're still in a vibe of wanting them. Scripting is a fantastic exercise to activate the vibration of <em>having </em>something, which speeds up its attraction to you. Remember, the <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/lawofattraction.html">law of attraction</a> states that "like attracts like." By scripting and talking about things as if they’ve already happened, you're invoking the energy that is needed to make your dreams come true. <br /><br /><strong>The good news is, you don’t have to join a scripting call to get benefits from this sort of exercise. In fact, you can start scripting in your mind right this very second!</strong><br /><br />Think about a particular goal or desire you’d like to see come to fruition in the next few months. It could be anything: weight loss, improved finances, a new relationship, more energy, etc. Next, think about how you would speak about this goal to others if it had <em>already come true</em>. What would you tell your friends and family, now that this thing is a part of your life? Would you talk about it more or less? Would the tone of your voice change, or the energy behind the words you speak? <br /><br />You can also call to mind someone who already has success in that area that you’re trying to replicate. It could be someone you know, or even a character in your favorite movie or television show. Think about how this person talks about what you're trying to manifest, and even how they talk to themselves about this particular thing. They may not even talk about it very much at all because it’s already a part of their life! Is there a particular body language associated with how they talk about it?<br /><br />You know the next step. <em>Start using those same words, self-talk, behavior, etc. in order to manifest that thing or situation into your life!</em> In some circumstances it might not be feasible to script out loud, but you can certainly script in your mind at all times. <strong>Talk to yourself as if your desire is already a reality in your world. </strong> How does that change the way you talk to yourself in this particular area?<br /><br />If this feels too awkward for you at first, try imagining that you’re an actor in a play or movie and that you’re playing the role of someone who is living your ideal life. Really get into the character and feel the emotions that this person would have. <em>Even if you’ve been playing the role of someone who's not successful in a particular area up until now, you can change the role you’ve been playing in your life at any time you choose!</em> <br /><br /><strong><u>Here's an example:</u> </strong>Say you’ve been thinking about taking up yoga, but you’re typically a wallflower or homebody and not very comfortable meeting new people. As much as you’d like to start a weekly yoga practice, the thought of joining a studio where you won’t know anyone is just <em>not</em> appealing to you. Instead of allowing this to hamper you and hold you back, try some of the methods I described above. <br /><br />You can start scripting to your friends about how excited you are to join the new yoga studio (even if inside you feel completely the opposite). Next you can actually go to the studio to sign up, and assume the role of someone who is confident, outgoing, and open to new situations and people. Rather than falling into your old pattern of keeping to yourself, try striking up a conversation with the person behind the front desk or even one of the yogis at the studio. I’m not saying these changes are going to happen overnight, and it might require a little willpower on your part, but <em>it is possible and it can be done</em>!<br /><br />I'd love to hear your experience with any of the above techniques! By using them on a consistent basis, you will begin to feel more comfortable actually having your desires as part of your life and it won’t feel so foreign to you. Once that happens, it's only a matter of time before those things seem to magically show up in your reality!<br /><br />For more details on scripting and additional exercises to create your ideal life, be sure to check out my ebook, <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpebook.html"><b>Secrets to Creating Your Ideal Life</b></a>! (That's it in the top left corner of this page).Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-55697432628465912692010-02-24T07:13:00.000-08:002010-02-24T07:59:06.392-08:00Playing the What If Game<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnMb5hz7QzQy49JQ4z9oghJ2lmp_GPF434FdN-P2nW880ldNCPQ7xnCBL0Uox-632a3nAmyaGYyDXNZeqXJWZzjvD3mR7gm17meuck1SlF5eRtyipQO0OhkSaE7g9vZr0c3keB-irbhFQ/s1600-h/question-mark.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 134px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnMb5hz7QzQy49JQ4z9oghJ2lmp_GPF434FdN-P2nW880ldNCPQ7xnCBL0Uox-632a3nAmyaGYyDXNZeqXJWZzjvD3mR7gm17meuck1SlF5eRtyipQO0OhkSaE7g9vZr0c3keB-irbhFQ/s200/question-mark.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5441834134940026706" /></a><br />Sometimes things tend to get a little serious on the path of self improvement and personal growth. We focus on all that hasn't happened yet in our lives, and all the changes we still have to implement. So I thought I'd use this post to bring things back to a fun vibe, and introduce you to a game! <br /><br />The What If game is a game that’s popular in <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/lawofattraction.html">law of attraction</a> circles, but anyone can do it and I highly recommend it. Not only is it a ton of fun, but it instantly puts you in a better mood and is very effective in helping you create the life of your dreams. <br /><br />The What If game is simple. Basically, the premise is this: Most of us, when we think of a goal we’d like to accomplish or a dream we’d like to manifest, or even something as simple as going to a cocktail party, we ask ourselves a series of questions that focus on the negative, i.e. “What if my business fails and I go bankrupt?” “What if I never lose this weight and stay like this forever?” “What if I go to this party and no one talks to me?” By asking ourselves questions like this from a standpoint of assuming the worst, we might think we’re preparing ourselves and preventing those things from happening. <em>In actuality, however, we’re just taking ourselves further and further away from our desired scenario!</em><br /><br />For example, say you’re at a cocktail party and want to go up to someone, but the only thoughts running through your mind are: “What if I say something stupid and embarrass myself?” or “What if I spill my drink on me?” If this is the case, not only are you going to be much less likely to actually take action and go up to someone new, but if you do go talk to them chances are you’ll be so nervous that you may actually spill your drink on yourself!<br /><br /><strong>So to play the What If game, you begin asking yourself questions from a positive standpoint, i.e. that focus on what you WANT to happen. </strong> Using the same example from above, you could interrupt yourself from asking negative questions in your head and instead consciously replace them with questions like, “What if I tell a great joke and everything thinks I’m really funny?” or “What if this person knows someone who can help me find my ideal job/life partner?” Obviously, there’s no guarantee that any of the questions you’re asking will come true, but that’s not the point!<br /><br />The point is to get your mind moving in a new direction, whereby you’re focusing on things from a more positive standpoint. <strong>You want to focus on the best-case scenario coming true rather than assuming the worst. </strong> If you read my <a href="http://blog.selfhelpgoddess.com/2010/01/questions-to-create-your-ideal-life.html">post on Afformations</a>, then you know the importance of asking your mind questions that focus on what you want to create rather than what you want to avoid. Whenever you ask yourself a question, your mind immediately goes off in search of the answer. By asking a question from the standpoint of what you want to attract, this directs your mind to focus on what you want to create. <em>And we all know that whatever we consistently focus on becomes true in our lives.</em><br /><br /><strong>Here’s another example: </strong>Say I want to manifest my ideal home, but I have no idea how that’s going to happen because I don’t have the money right now. Rather than getting frustrated and automatically giving up on my desire, I can ask myself:<br /><br />• What if the sellers of my dream home drop the price drastically and I can now afford it?<br />• What if my dream home goes into foreclosure and I can buy it from the bank for a ridiculously cheap price?<br />• What if I win the lottery tomorrow and never have to worry about money again?<br /><br /><em>Get the idea? </em> <br /><br />Use whatever questions you like, and sometimes the more “out there” they are, the better! <strong>The purpose of this game is not to find answers to the questions, but rather to get in a place of thinking about your desires coming true.</strong> We get so attached to how our dreams our going to be delivered to us, and oftentimes we prevent things from making their way to us because we think they can only come through one single channel. <em>This game helps you release your attachment to outcomes, and expand the possibilities in your mind of all the different ways your dreams can come true! </em><br /><br />If the words “What if” don’t fully resonate with you, you can also use the words “Wouldn’t it be nice if…?” For example, “Wouldn’t it be nice if I win the lottery?” or “Wouldn’t it be nice if I lose ten lbs. overnight?” For even more fun, try playing this out loud with a partner or group of friends! <br /><br />For additional resources on playing the What If game, check out the What If Up Club website, <a href="http://whatifup.com/">www.whatifup.com</a>.Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-18277909177709017122010-02-08T15:30:00.000-08:002010-02-08T16:05:56.643-08:00Solo on Valentine's Day<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWGz7j7C3zJcgwea6abP4_r8CdUuwIi4_ijki6RzOKsoBC3WMOrvLq_LUJVDvB0OyJlZIpSUMY1KnRTpECiH9x2nwboSuPOifvDXHcCH6CZNdhZxIp8xrjERjoaMGeerhFkl0FVKHNPwg/s1600-h/couple-valentines-day.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 196px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWGz7j7C3zJcgwea6abP4_r8CdUuwIi4_ijki6RzOKsoBC3WMOrvLq_LUJVDvB0OyJlZIpSUMY1KnRTpECiH9x2nwboSuPOifvDXHcCH6CZNdhZxIp8xrjERjoaMGeerhFkl0FVKHNPwg/s200/couple-valentines-day.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5436026200412750738" /></a><br />I was asking for suggestions for blog topics the other day on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/SelfHelpGoddess">Twitter</a>, and a dear friend suggested I write on the topic of being single on Valentine’s Day (I prefer the word “solo” to single). I thought it was a great idea, especially since Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching at the end of this week and I can already feel the tension beginning to rise around me! <br /><br />So, what to do if you’re solo on Valentine’s Day? First and foremost, stop beating yourself up about it! <strong>It’s not that big a deal. </strong>Really, it’s not! In fact, lots of people <em>in </em>relationships dread Valentine’s Day as much as you do and would prefer to avoid it all together. Some couples even break up just prior to February 14 because the pressure is just too much too handle. New couples worry about whether they should celebrate the big day and what sort of gift to get their partner, while many long-term couples wonder why they continue to celebrate this holiday after so many years together. <u>Honestly, Valentine's Day is not all it's cracked up to be!</u><br /><br />If you’re still not feeling convinced, though, remember that loving yourself is key to any great relationship. <em>Before you can truly love someone else and welcome them into your heart, you must start with a solid foundation of loving yourself. </em> You’ve heard it before, but it’s true! Therefore, rather than feeling sad or depressed this Valentine’s Day because you’re not in a relationship, why not flow love and compassion towards yourself in order to get you ready for your next great relationship (which is on its way to you, whether you realize it or not!). <br /><br /><strong><font color=#FF0033>Instead of spending the day focusing on how you’re alone and you’d rather not be, spend the day focused on yourself and appreciating all that you are! </strong></font color> Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate this day, too. After all, Valentine’s Day is about LOVE, and you can love yourself and love your life even if you’re solo!<br /><br />One of the best ways to love yourself is to watch what you say to yourself in your mind, i.e. monitor your thoughts and self-talk. If you catch yourself thinking a thought that makes you feel bad or depressed, change it immediately to a thought that makes you feel better. <em>We’re in control of our thoughts and can think anything we want.</em> For example, I guarantee you that telling yourself things like, “I’m the only one without a date on Valentine’s Day” or “I’ll be alone forever” are going to make you feel horrible! Therefore, if you catch yourself thinking a thought like that, immediately cancel it and replace it with a thought that feels better. Some examples are:<br /><br /><b><font color=#FF0033>• I've been in great relationships before, so I'll be in another great relationship soon.</font color><br />• Being single is only temporary.<br /><font color=#FF0033>• I'm not going to let this day dictate how I feel about myself.</font color><br />• I love and celebrate myself, exactly as I am!</b><br /><br />Next, be sure to plan something special so that you’re not sitting at home alone feeling sorry for yourself. Invite some friends over for a dinner party, rent your favorite movie, or treat yourself to a massage! <strong>Remember, rather than using the day as an excuse to beat yourself up for being single, use the day as an excuse to celebrate you and everything you are. </strong>Take yourself shopping, get your hair done at the salon, or go to the gym and attend a yoga class. Do anything that makes you feel better about yourself and interrupts your pattern of feeling low because you’re solo. <br /><br />Also, keep in mind that being single is very rarely a permanent state. Sure, you’re not in a relationship <em>right now</em>, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be single forever! In fact, being single is actually a pre-requisite for being in a relationship: when the right person shows up you have to be single so you're available to be with them. Besides, everyone who has a date this Valentine’s Day has been single at some point in their lives! <br /><br />So if you're starting to feel anxious as Valentine's Day approaches, <u>don't</u>. It's only one day out of the entire year, and there are tons of couples who boycott the day entirely because there's too much hype surrounding it. Ultimately, only you are in charge of how you feel about yourself and this day doesn't have to be any different than the rest. You can still choose to feel beautiful, sexy, intelligent, fun, and madly in love with yourself, even if you're solo. :)Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-40199365600716382472010-02-02T08:43:00.000-08:002010-02-02T09:03:04.021-08:00Owning Your Sexiness<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgovIF8YVoUKQHl3BpwfoOMIxYUgvGEwvsRb35VF23bHeQ8RFvKPwd0HuZrzIkCwD6dIzm5bYcMq5pVKHCFEoS_uzhH8AC5fh51AbFcdijHPdpCdvTHBTXpQ1LFmu0HhrD_7e9D7sU6cGQ/s1600-h/sexy.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 133px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgovIF8YVoUKQHl3BpwfoOMIxYUgvGEwvsRb35VF23bHeQ8RFvKPwd0HuZrzIkCwD6dIzm5bYcMq5pVKHCFEoS_uzhH8AC5fh51AbFcdijHPdpCdvTHBTXpQ1LFmu0HhrD_7e9D7sU6cGQ/s200/sexy.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5433692415958421954" /></a><br />Last week at my coach training, one of the greatest lessons I learned was that of owning my sexiness. Even though the majority of the week was focused on coaching techniques, we also underwent a lot of personal growth and transformation and I embraced the true definition of sexiness!<br /><br />I’m here to tell you from personal experience, sexiness has nothing to do with looks. I’ll repeat that here, just to make sure you really get the message: <b>Being HOT & sexually attractive has absolutely *nothing* to do with your looks!!</b> (I tweeted this the other day and got lots of positive responses so I thought I’d write a blog about it).<br /> <br />Sure, we’re taught in our society that looks are the key to happiness in life, and that you’re only sexy if you look a certain way (tall, thin, gorgeous skin, etc.). But think of all the other societies across the world where an entirely different look is valued. For example, some societies actually think the sexiest women are those with the large, round hips and voluptuous bodies. In their societies, thinness is actually not considered attractive at all!<br /><br />So if sexiness doesn’t have anything to do with looks, then what makes someone sexy and attractive to others? Here you go, so listen up! <b>The truth is, sexiness is all about owning and embracing who YOU are.</b> It means not trying to conform to society’s version of what sexy is, but conforming to what YOUR idea of sexy is! We are all unique, all completely different, with various qualities, strengths, and weaknesses. <em>And owning and embracing who you are is the key to sexiness!</em><br /><br />Being sexy means recognizing that you are incredibly dynamic and intriguing, <u>just for being you</u>, and allowing your light to shine through. It has to do with confidence, self-acceptance, and owning and embracing everything that you are! It’s knowing that you have so much to offer to this world, and being excited about sharing that with others. It’s about looking in the mirror and liking what you see, but also knowing that beauty is really created from the inside out and that what’s most important is on the inside. <br /><br />So many of us spend so much time condemning ourselves because we’re not the perfect size, or the right height, or don’t have the right hair, or eye color, etc. Who really cares?! <u><em>There is no one else on the planet exactly like you, and that makes you incredibly sexy!!</em></u> Even if you’re an identical twin and your twin looks just like you, there are characteristics about your personality that make you uniquely you and distinct from your twin. <br /><br />We’ve all had the experience of meeting someone who looks really sexy from the outside, but the minute we start talking to them we lose all interest in them. On the flip side, haven’t you met someone who didn’t look all that great to you at first, but the minute you got to know them and their personality they became so incredibly sexy to you? <strong>No matter what someone looks like on the outside, it’s really their inner beauty that captivates and attracts others. </strong> <br /><br />So, what to do if you’re not feeling super sexy right now? Start by embracing your inner qualities and who you really are rather than focusing so much attention on your looks. <i>Learn to feel your sexiness from the inside out!</i> Make a list of all the reasons you love yourself and what makes you special. There are certain qualities you have that set you apart from others, and the more you focus on those the sexier you become! Don’t forget to write a <a href="http://tinyurl.com/ybgywub">love letter to yourself</a> if you haven’t already!<br /><br />Don’t believe me? Try it out for yourself! The next time you catch yourself not feeling very sexy, spend a few minutes focusing on all the things you appreciate about yourself (how smart you are, how good you are with kids, how loyal you are with your pets, etc.). Don’t you feel sexier and more confident already?!<br /><br />Stay tuned later this week for my post on what to do if you’re single on Valentine’s Day. Hint: It has more to do with loving and embracing yourself as you are, rather than running out and finding any date you can! ;)Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-53311846898840314532010-01-27T20:30:00.000-08:002010-01-28T07:36:34.429-08:00Embracing Your Feelings<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoEYF2KJc2bL-kCQyD1QQ8sg3sAxHaEDYCWvmq5XpIRgKMZLm2bMgKu135JS8XyZjzU3dIW12Fhh68QbjDWs5s2bLethc07DTw39FTxqX2mat9yEYps-L6A3EoxZ_c9cLnTVaSh-ici-E/s1600-h/feelings.gif"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoEYF2KJc2bL-kCQyD1QQ8sg3sAxHaEDYCWvmq5XpIRgKMZLm2bMgKu135JS8XyZjzU3dIW12Fhh68QbjDWs5s2bLethc07DTw39FTxqX2mat9yEYps-L6A3EoxZ_c9cLnTVaSh-ici-E/s200/feelings.gif" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5431649810043432050" /></a><br />As I mentioned in my last post, I’m spending the week in Ojai, CA going through coach training with <a href="http://www.hendricks.com">Gay & Katie Hendricks</a> (I’ve been a huge fan of their work for years!). One of the main things we’ve been talking about is body awareness, or how to get in touch with and really embrace your feelings. <br /><br />For most people, feelings are something we typically avoid. They might feel “icky” and pop up when we least expect them, and so the <i>last</i> thing we want to do is actually embrace them! <b>Yet really feeling your feelings and allowing them to be as they are can not only solve many of your problems, but also leads to a much richer expression of both yourself and your life.</b> Often times we are so scared of feeling our emotions that we play small and avoid situations that might trigger them in any way. Addictions are actually based on the unwillinginess to explore and feel various feelings. <br /><br />I'd like to share an exercise with you I learned this week, which explains one way to get in touch with your feelings. <i>My hope is that it will show you how easy it can be to explore our emotions, and that doing so regularly can radically increase the enjoyment of our lives! </i><br /><br />Start by selecting a particular feeling you want to concentrate on during this exercise. It could be a feeling you’re experiencing right this very moment, or you can use your imagination to conjure up an emotion you’ve had in the past which causes you discomfort. (Note: you don’t have to select a “negative” emotion, you can also use “positive” emotions, like joy or happiness, which you have trouble experiencing to their fullest extent.) <br /><br />Once you’ve selected an emotion, tune into your body and turn your attention inward. Take a few deep breaths to get centered, if you’re not already there, and tune out all outside distractions as best as you can. Now, scan your body internally and become aware of the particular emotion that you’re exploring. Locate the feeling and ask yourself the following questions:<br /><b><br />• Where do I feel this particular emotion in my body?<br />• What does it feel like, i.e. what sensations I am feeling?<br />• Does this feeling have a certain shape or texture to it? If so, describe it.<br />• Does this emotion have any color to it? Which one?<br />• Finally, if this feeling could talk, what would it say to me? Does it have a particular message to give me at this time? </b><br /><br />As you do this exercise, notice if the feeling changes in any way. For example, has it moved to a new location in your body, changed shapes, or adopted a new texture? Also, does it have any new messages to give you as the exercise goes on? <br /><br />For many of you, this may feel uncomfortable if you’ve never gotten in touch with your feelings like this before. <b>Most of us spend so much time in our heads that we spend very little time getting in touch with our bodies and the various sensations we experience within it.</b> Don’t worry about whether or not you are giving the correct answers to the questions. There are no right or wrong answers! Just go with whatever comes to mind, and allow yourself to feel and think whatever comes up. <br /><br />Doing this exercise on a regular basis could be the beginning of a life-long romance with your feelings! <i>Instead of running from them or trying to control them as we normally do, I invite you to try exploring and embracing your feelings.</i> View them as messengers with important information to relay to you, rather than inconveniences or annoyances to be avoided at all costs. <br /><br />The more you listen carefully to your emotions and allow them to be as they are, I think you'll find that your life runs much more smoothly, and is filled with all the joy, abundance, and love you could ever imagine! :-)Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-65132386491158931362010-01-25T19:20:00.000-08:002010-01-25T19:42:37.922-08:00Being Gentle on Yourself<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwTIP3U0NE_47Xmft2tqHNvPrZbyLuQa9xXk8JuAUQgjJKj0F7PjzVdybBG4UTroIfn6FTwCQZtvfr_ybYCPLKwy9iuUu3GPX5zDdcbKle5vxHfwrSlTtg-zS3Rt5hOBzBk-ecFSpDpcc/s1600-h/Be-Gentle-With-Yourself--Max-Ehrman.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 197px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwTIP3U0NE_47Xmft2tqHNvPrZbyLuQa9xXk8JuAUQgjJKj0F7PjzVdybBG4UTroIfn6FTwCQZtvfr_ybYCPLKwy9iuUu3GPX5zDdcbKle5vxHfwrSlTtg-zS3Rt5hOBzBk-ecFSpDpcc/s200/Be-Gentle-With-Yourself--Max-Ehrman.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5430888135336764482" /></a><br />Every once in awhile I feel zero inspiration to write a blog. It’s not that I don’t have any ideas, it’s just that nothing in particular is screaming at me this moment to become a blog. Actually, this week might be a special case because I’m attending the “Conscious Living” retreat with <a href="www.hendricks.com">Gay & Katie Hendricks</a> in Ojai, CA, and I’m going through so much growth and expansion that my brain is fried when it comes to writing blogs. But I thought I’d take this opportunity to re-emphasize how important it is to be gentle on ourselves and practice self-love, even in these moments when the wheels just don’t seem to be turning.<br /><br />Whether or not you have a blog, I’m sure everyone is familiar with what I’m talking about. You have something that needs to be done, and it might even be something you <br />know is good for you. However, for some reason you just can’t summon the energy or motivation to do it! <br /><br /><em>So, what to do when this phenomenon strikes? See below for some helpful hints.</em><br /><br /><strong>1) No judgement allowed:</strong> First and foremost, please remember that beating yourself up or judging yourself for the lack of activity is not going to help. In fact, it’s just going to end up making matters worse! You may think you’re just giving yourself a healthy kick in the butt, but judging yourself or criticizing yourself is *never* a good idea. Instead, try reinforcing some positive self-talk by reminding yourself of all the projects you HAVE successfully completed in the past.<br /><br /><strong>2) Forget about it for awhile:</strong> Take a hot bath, or a walk, or even a nap! Just forget about it for awhile, and trust that when the time is right you’ll be back up and running with the right amount of energy and motivation. Unless it’s a life or death situation (and how often is that truly the case?), your project will wait for you while you’re recharging your batteries. Sometimes even five minutes of pure unadulterated time to yourself will do wonders!<br /><br /><strong>3) Dive into your feelings: </strong>Are you sure you’re just not feeling motivated, or is there something else going on? Is there some deeper reason why you might be procrastinating? Maybe you’re scared of failure, or even success! Maybe you’re scared of failing, or that your work will be judged as being not up to par. If you identify any issues lurking under the surface, dive into those feelings and bring awareness to them. Really go into your body and explore what’s going on inside. Try making friends with your feelings and you’ll be surprised at how quickly they can subside.<br /><br /><strong>4) Make a move:</strong> Sometimes all you need is a good old-fashioned push to get yourself back in the game, and who better to give yourself that push than yourself! Take a step, any step, just to get the energy flowing again. For me it was deciding to write a blog on the topic of not knowing what to write! But hey, I got a blog out of it, didn't I? ;) Maybe for you it’s doing ten jumping jacks, which will convince you that going to the gym is what your body really needs right now, or writing an introductory paragraph for the memo that your boss is waiting on. It doesn’t have to be a huge step, just something to get you moving in the right direction.<br /><br />Finally, when all else fails:<br /><br /><strong>5) Write a love letter to yourself: </strong>This is my new favorite <a href="http://tinyurl.com/ybgywub">self-love technique</a>, and I can’t encourage you enough to get into a regular habit of celebrating yourself. Every time I do this, I realize more and more things to love about myself! Not only does this allow you to send yourself love and acceptance despite your inactivity, but it will also remind you of all your fabulous qualities. This will fill you with a sense of confidence which may be just what you need to get moving again!<br /><br />I hope these suggestions have helped you. I'd love to hear about your experience with any of the above tips!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-16510194571101392522010-01-11T06:39:00.000-08:002010-01-11T07:37:34.761-08:00Love Letter to Myself<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAoaGlBljWFMS58C64dJZLtsqI2Z-nLP0mUvrqiKMIlApj5X_d6N5X_G-mn4m4oYM_Ifrp04fbKIo4NZqSuEMZyBk51rl1V5cLsnkRV_G-Sk3sr6rtU-AI-4H3KuC7DQQPKQ0PMeuU5nk/s1600-h/Love-Letter-Web.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAoaGlBljWFMS58C64dJZLtsqI2Z-nLP0mUvrqiKMIlApj5X_d6N5X_G-mn4m4oYM_Ifrp04fbKIo4NZqSuEMZyBk51rl1V5cLsnkRV_G-Sk3sr6rtU-AI-4H3KuC7DQQPKQ0PMeuU5nk/s200/Love-Letter-Web.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5425501137126605826" /></a><br />With the new year upon us and resolutions in full swing, several people have emailed me over the last week or contacted me on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/selfhelpgoddess">Twitter</a> asking me for my recommendations on the best self-help products for finding a romantic partner or manifesting more abundance. It seems that people everywhere are determined to make this the year they find true love or finally get their finances in order! You can find my recommendations for love <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelprelationship.html">here</a> and abundance <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpdebtreduction.html">here</a>, but I’d like to use this blog to reiterate the importance of self-love in creating your ideal life or manifesting specific results. <br /><br /><strong><font color=#E71864>The truth is, until you can truly come to a place of loving and accepting yourself exactly as you are, results will ultimately always elude you because deep down you don’t feel deserving of the success you’re trying to achieve.</font color> </strong> I came up with exercise below (it's fun!) to help you get into a place of really loving yourself, which will speed up the process of attracting whatever you want to manifest in your life this year.<br /><br />I call this exercise, “<em>Writing a Love Letter to Myself</em>.” Basically, you're going to do just what it sounds like. Take out a sheet of paper, or do this in your journal or on the computer. Next, get busy writing a love letter to yourself and describing all the wonderful things you love and adore about yourself! You could write about physical features, personality characteristics, things you have accomplished in life, basically anything you appreciate about yourself. And don't think you have to only focus on big things. You can even appreciate yourself just for doing this exercise!<br /><br />For some of you this may seem extremely difficult, if not downright impossible or uncomfortable. We spend so much time beating ourselves up and trying to change things about ourselves, so at first it might be challenging to find things you truly love about yourself. Do the best you can, though, and if you keep looking I guarantee you will find lots of great things you love and adore about yourself!<br /><br />Here’s an example taken from my own life:<br /><br /><b><i><font color=#088A85>Dear Mary,<br /><br />I love the fact that you are so committed to personal and spiritual growth, and that you are determined to create your ideal life. I love that you have created a website to help others do that as well, and that your passion is helping others to achieve their wildest dreams. I love that you stay positive even on those days when you don’t feel so great, and that you always stay optimistic and focused on your ideal outcome. I love that you are constantly getting to know yourself on deeper levels, and are always improving your relationship with yourself.<br /><br />I love you,<br />-Mary Knebel</font color></b></i><br /><br />Feel free to do this exercise several times or as many times as you need to really amp up your <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/self-love.html">self-love</a>. I guarantee you will feel better after doing this, and you may even realize you love things about yourself that you hadn’t even thought about! <br /><br /><b><font color=#0174DF>If you’re single and want to manifest your ideal partner this year, write a love letter to yourself from your dream partner.</b></font color> In most cases you probably haven’t met them yet or don’t know who they are, but use your imagination to think about your ideal partner and think of things that he/she would find particularly attractive or appealing in you. Then write a love letter to yourself from that perspective and sign it from your future partner. You can even keep it and give it to them when they show up in your life! <br /> <br />This can be a useful exercise because sometimes we spend so much time focusing on the type of person we want to attract that we forget to focus on how they’re going to treat us. Sure, we want a person with specific qualities, but if they show up and don’t love us as we are then we’ve missed the point entirely. If you’ve ever met someone who has all the qualities you’re looking for but they're just not that into you, then you know exactly what I’m talking about!<br /><br />I’d love to hear about your results with either of the above two exercises. Write away!<br /><br />For additional self-love resources and exercises, be sure to check out the <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/self-love.html"><b>self-love page</b></a> on my site.Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-86852614828041100532010-01-06T08:28:00.000-08:002010-01-06T08:29:14.536-08:00Questions to Create Your Ideal Life<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfN_jkhq4tL5cDM9xFoC2uBetXg6bT57QohOle68FZc6HTzXZVbHV9LLG-AYP21K_-7xHDwi3LuySeeuLdjcvrmmpQVPUnRycR94DxMX1qHlT_jRTLTGQimWq8ybAq6tNV2LhKhEfeyj8/s1600-h/afformations.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfN_jkhq4tL5cDM9xFoC2uBetXg6bT57QohOle68FZc6HTzXZVbHV9LLG-AYP21K_-7xHDwi3LuySeeuLdjcvrmmpQVPUnRycR94DxMX1qHlT_jRTLTGQimWq8ybAq6tNV2LhKhEfeyj8/s200/afformations.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5423663635953533778" /></a><br />With the excitement of the new year all around us, several people have asked me for recommendations on what the best self-help product on the market is, and if they could only dedicate themselves to just one product this year, which one would it be? Truthfully, it’s hard for me to narrow it down to just one; however, I did stumble upon a resource recently that has brought about noticeable results in my life. If you haven’t discovered them yet, you’re in for a treat! They’re called <a href="http://www.SuccessClinic.com/cmd.php?af=1061129">Afformations</a>, by Noah St. John.<br /><br />Yes, you read that correctly. They’re called Aff<em>o</em>rmations, not Aff<em>i</em>rmations. Affirmations are phrases you repeat regularly in order to change your self-talk, or what you say to yourself on a regular basis. They can be highly effective in changing the way you see yourself, and therefore your results in the world. However, some people have difficulty with them because they just can’t get behind some of the things they’re saying. For example, if you’re trying to increase your cash flow and avoid foreclosure on your home, you might have difficulty affirming to yourself, “I am a millionaire. I have all the money I need.” <br /><br /><a href="http://www.SuccessClinic.com/cmd.php?af=1061129">Afformations</a>, on the other hand, are questions you ask yourself <em>whereby you assume that whatever you are trying to create or attract has already manifested in your life</em>. By asking yourself the question from a position of <strong>having</strong> versus <strong>lacking</strong>, your mind goes about looking for information to fill in the gaps! Afformations allow you to bypass all the objections or resistance your mind might put up with typical affirmations, because they assume that what you want is already a given and therefore no convincing of the mind is required! Essentially, Afformations are “empowering questions that cause your mind to focus on what you really want, and stop focusing on what you don’t want.”<br /><br />Think about it, whenever you ask yourself a question your mind immediately goes off in search of an answer. Try it now. Ask yourself, “Why is the sky blue?” Didn’t your mind immediately try to find an answer to the question, even though it's a question most of us don't have an answer to? The problem is that the majority of us tend to ask ourselves negative questions all day long, like, “Why don’t things ever work out for me? Why doesn’t my boss like me? Why is life so hard?” By learning to ask yourself positive questions instead, you change your subconscious thought patterns from negative to positive and huge results will follow soon after!<br /><br /><em>Here’s how to create Afformations that will change your life:</em><br /><br /><strong>Step 1: Ask yourself what you want. </strong><br />Hopefully you already know what it is you want, but if not, get busy finding out! This could be anything, from getting a promotion, to losing weight, to simply finding more inner peace and happiness within yourself. Your goal can be as large or small as you want it to be.<br /><br /><strong>Step 2: Create a question that assumes that what you want is already true.</strong><br />Next, come up with a question that implies that you already have whatever it is you want, or that a specific condition or situation is already a part of your life. The creator of Afformations recommends phrasing all your questions beginning with the word “Why?” So you could ask yourself questions like: <br /><br />• Why am I so rich? <br />• Why am I so happy? <br />• Why do things always work out for me? <br />• Why do people like me so much? <br />• Why does my marriage keep getting better and better, every single day? <br /><br /><em>And that’s it!</em><br /><br />Now, you don't ever have to actually answer the new questions you are asking yourself. That’s not the point. Your subconscious mind will take care of all that for you. <strong>The key is in asking yourself better questions, and changing the focus of your mind. </strong> As you ask yourself better questions and steer your mind in a new direction, you shift the focus of your mind from a state of lack to having what you want. We all know that we get what we focus on, so eventually those things you are wanting will become a part of your life! <br /><br />A note about taking action: I’ll be honest with you, I’ve found results from Afformations without even consciously introducing action into the equation. In my experience, once you begin asking yourself more empowering questions, you just naturally begin taking more action that lines up with what you want to create. It won’t even feel like taking action to you, because it will feel so natural and inevitable! Obviously, if you want to speed up your results, you can begin taking action that lines up with your new questions. For example, if one of your new questions to yourself is, “Why are my investments always so successful?”, you could go on-line and research various investment strategies. That's an example of an action step that would line up with your new question.<br /><br />I listen to Afformations recordings almost every night as I fall asleep, and occasionally during the day on my iPod for reinforcement. I've been using them for about three months now, and not only do I feel more optimistic about the things I'm trying to create, but I can just tell that my mind works differently. Rather than focusing on the problem, I catch my mind looking for solutions! The things I want feel like a given, rather than some far-off question mark. <br /><br />To learn more about this powerful resource, go <a href="http://www.SuccessClinic.com/cmd.php?af=1061129">here</a>. This could be just the tool you've been looking for, that helps you finally create a life you're crazy about! You can thank me later:)Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-55188575097567499392010-01-04T09:12:00.000-08:002010-01-04T11:16:37.302-08:00Lavish Yourself With Love<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJeQQKXIJDUrWr7lGu0RM2TlvPnmMgXXaB4FKkOi6aP6zhjh0utDz6JxxyF4hfLBfk-sbVbeJHq2hM58DOXfD49sRUxwt4oTo6T-H3Vf8OunAHMuQOTGEbV8UW3YNauDtLVUGeieeA5oU/s1600-h/happynewyear.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 144px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJeQQKXIJDUrWr7lGu0RM2TlvPnmMgXXaB4FKkOi6aP6zhjh0utDz6JxxyF4hfLBfk-sbVbeJHq2hM58DOXfD49sRUxwt4oTo6T-H3Vf8OunAHMuQOTGEbV8UW3YNauDtLVUGeieeA5oU/s200/happynewyear.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5422963557911031746" /></a><br />Happy New Year! I don't know about you, but to me 2010 already feels much different than 2009. The excitement in the air is palpable, everyone is excited for the new decade, and the energy as a whole feels happier, lighter, and filled with opportunity. If you're having trouble coming up with resolutions (I prefer to call them "intentions"), be sure to check out my <a href="http://tinyurl.com/y96km6a">last post</a> on creating effective resolutions. <strong><font color=#990066>This is definitely your year to be successful!</strong></font color><br /><br />One of my intentions for 2010 is to make my relationship with myself a true priority and to make this a <a href="http://tinyurl.com/y8jwhdg">year of self-love</a>. I've got several exciting things in store related to self-love, which I will share with you at a later time, but in the meantime I wanted to pass along the following quote from <a href="http://www.debbieford.com">Debbie Ford</a>'s "Create a Life You Love" newsletter. I couldn't have said it better myself, so I thought I would just copy it here. The picture below is also from Debbie's newsletter. Enjoy! <br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvZnHT-zSakMqFQ-l_YNGkNfxqavpbhAd08doDniTljE8CzQzHEgoy87flfoGuPw9ivLLejpqBXcli-mq0Ka3PjHW3b0I2htmM2N4avNTUaxRRNlX0KCOTH1ink7dekPysQxWJpfxLYZY/s1600-h/HinduGoddess_Purple.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 242px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvZnHT-zSakMqFQ-l_YNGkNfxqavpbhAd08doDniTljE8CzQzHEgoy87flfoGuPw9ivLLejpqBXcli-mq0Ka3PjHW3b0I2htmM2N4avNTUaxRRNlX0KCOTH1ink7dekPysQxWJpfxLYZY/s320/HinduGoddess_Purple.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5422959605168337330" /></a><br /><i><b><font color=#990066>"Welcome to 2010, the healthiest, sexiest, richest, most exciting, magical and adventurous year of your life. Are you in? This is a year when you fall in love with yourself, your body, your career, your life, and all of those around you. This is a holy year when your highest self comes first. And instead of listening to the voice of your past, you tune in and listen to the voice of your own soul. You don't focus on getting, you focus on giving your greatest self to the world. You are going to the holy land of your highest expression."</font color></b></i><br /><br />To remind yourself of this throughout the year, I recommend displaying the picture and quote in a place where you can see it often. I'm actually going to put it up in a few different locations to remain focused!<br /><br />If I can be of any assistance during this time of great renewal and change, please know that you are always welcome to contact me. My ebook, <a href="http://tinyurl.com/qbcrpn"><b>"Secrets to Creating Your Ideal Life,"</b></a> is also a great source of information that will help you make 2010 your best year yet!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-13982201995911780232009-12-29T08:55:00.000-08:002009-12-29T09:03:40.770-08:00Guidelines for Effective Resolutions<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4RsPZjYHSWq-omQy4FGvyxgenYRE7J7VISZ3wAK5RBwf5cPmh8f0Gs8SzJPG_dsUGDDiJIotPDq5RSXvwWzVGfHyYTHDLDI9aHLjgGkWyoEs77UsxdLKp6x8s-5KTJngmEAO2fd5OPcE/s1600-h/resolutions.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 156px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4RsPZjYHSWq-omQy4FGvyxgenYRE7J7VISZ3wAK5RBwf5cPmh8f0Gs8SzJPG_dsUGDDiJIotPDq5RSXvwWzVGfHyYTHDLDI9aHLjgGkWyoEs77UsxdLKp6x8s-5KTJngmEAO2fd5OPcE/s200/resolutions.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5420704605124799122" /></a><br />Let’s face it, practically all of us set New Year’s resolutions every year, and practically every year they don’t come true. Sure, we work hard on them for a week or two, and sometimes even a month! Slowly but surely, though, we forget all about them and our life returns to the way it was before. This doesn’t mean we should eliminate resolutions all together, because they can certainly be powerful tools in creating change in our lives. However, I’d like to suggest a different way we could go about setting resolutions this year, which will make them more effective and more likely to come true! <br /><br />Here are some suggestions you might try implementing in 2010:<br /><br /><b>1) Set an intention:</b> Instead of calling them New Year’s resolutions, try calling them New Year’s <i>intentions</i>. Sure, it sounds like the same thing, but there’s a slight difference. So many of us have set resolutions in years past and have been unsuccessful. Therefore, just hearing the word “resolution” has a negative connotation to it. In fact, those people who don’t set New Year’s resolutions say they don’t do it because they know they’re sure to fail! A resolution means you resolve to do something, and therefore if you aren’t successful you automatically assume you’re a failure. By calling it a New Year’s intention instead, you are signaling to yourself and the Universe that you are <i>intending</i> to create a change in your life and will do everything you can to make that change come true. However, because it’s an intention and not a resolution, you don’t have any excuse to beat yourself up if you're not successful. You still may not follow through as much as you would like, but at least you won't be so harsh on yourself! <br /><br /><b>2) Learn to love yourself:</b> Instead of intending to do the same things you’ve probably tried in years past (like losing weight, quitting smoking, etc.), why not make this the year you finally learn to love and accept yourself, AS IS, once and for all?! So many people want to create change in their lives because they think that will <i>finally</i> make them happy. Without true self-love, however, you will never achieve the level of happiness and security that you think weight loss, making more money, finding your life partner, etc. will bring you. Start by learning to love yourself once and for all, and not only will you feel better as a whole, but all those other things you are hoping to achieve will manifest much easier in your life! See my last <a href=http://tinyurl.com/y8jwhdg>blog post</a> for an exercise that will help you do just this.<br /><br /><b>3) Celebrate your successes:</b> Be sure to acknowledge and reward yourself for all the great effort you put forth in 2009 and everything you accomplished, whether you set out to or not. Most people are so focused on what they want to change in 2010 that they completely forget to give themselves credit for what they achieved in 2009! Sit down and make a list of everything that <i>went right</i> in the past year. Celebrate yourself for all the successes you had, no matter how big or small. Not only will this help you reflect on how productive your last year really was, but doing this will fill you with a sense of accomplishment and lots of positive energy and motivation as you head into 2010!<br /><br /><b>4) Practice gratitude:</b> Finally, be grateful for the resolutions you set in 2009 that didn’t pan out exactly the way you had hoped. There’s always an upside to every situation, and the sooner you can find it the better off you’ll be! Rather than beating yourself up for not having lost that ten lbs. last year, find the payoffs <i>you gained</i> from that situation. For example, maybe you were able to spend more time with your children because you weren’t spending so much time in the gym. Or maybe you didn’t get the job you were hoping for last year, but in turn that allowed you to start a successful online business instead. Even if the payoffs aren’t immediately obvious, keep looking and you’re sure to find them! The Universe always has your best interests in mind, so if you didn’t achieve something last year that you were hoping to it just means there was a bigger and better plan for you.<br /><br /><font color=#FF0033><b>Here's to hoping that 2010 is your best year yet!</font color></b> If I can help you in any way or support you in achieving your dreams, you are always welcome to <a href=http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelp-contact.html>contact</a> me.Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-85955084291974935792009-12-23T10:21:00.000-08:002009-12-23T10:58:47.007-08:002010: The Year of Self-Love!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgNvvfk8rzs7KGyoYI2qAED0m1O4Zo80I1Sdbh1Wq9yulRCdTx6FWcVhS8HnyQJnRIye2SHfwlfy8s6O6XMs1ZESI7NcIt8vQ1X4aRzLu023E-KYDo9eGF_Jm7PjI0lobn-Qa0hD1P078/s1600-h/SELFLOVE.JPG"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 159px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgNvvfk8rzs7KGyoYI2qAED0m1O4Zo80I1Sdbh1Wq9yulRCdTx6FWcVhS8HnyQJnRIye2SHfwlfy8s6O6XMs1ZESI7NcIt8vQ1X4aRzLu023E-KYDo9eGF_Jm7PjI0lobn-Qa0hD1P078/s200/SELFLOVE.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5418506385834328002" /></a><br />As 2009 winds down and 2010 is rapidly approaching, I’m sure that everyone is rushing to finish their holiday shopping and trying to come up with resolutions for the year ahead. Instead of setting the same old New Year’s resolutions as the year before, however, and probably the year before that, I’d like to suggest a different sort of resolution for 2010 that most people probably overlook. Instead of planning to finally lose that dreaded last ten lbs., or find your soulmate, or make more money, or quit smoking, etc. <strong>why not make 2010 the year you finally learn to love yourself, faults and all and make it the year of self-love?! </strong><br /><br />We’ve all heard that loving yourself is essential if you want to live a truly rewarding life, but how many of us can actually say we love ourselves deep down, <em>exactly as we are</em>. You may have even reached a place where you are able to love and accept yourself most of the time, but there are still a few areas where you are struggling to appreciate yourself day in and day out. <font color=#DF0174><b>Let's make this year where we finally make peace with every single place in ourselves, good, bad, and ugly!</font color></b> Not only will you feel a lot better as a whole, but all those other things you’re hoping to achieve will fall into place so much easier if you just love and accept yourself as you are.<br /><br />Here’s an exercise I tried recently, and it is extremely powerful in getting you to a place of releasing shame and making peace with yourself as a whole. I found it in Byron Katie’s book, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0307345300?ie=UTF8&tag=selhelgod-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0307345300"><b>I Need Your Love - Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead</b></a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=selhelgod-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0307345300" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" /> and instantly recognized its potential and possibilities for increasing self-love. I encourage you to try this, and the more uncomfortable you are with it, the better!<br /><br />First, take out a sheet of paper and think of someone in your life that you hide things from. It could be a spouse, parent, child, friend, etc., or even the planet as a whole! Now, imagine that you are writing a letter to this person (or people) and start out the letter by saying, “What I don’t want you to know about me is…” Then, list everything you would be ashamed of or embarrassed about if that person discovered these aspects about yourself. Things like, “I have cellulite on my thighs, I rarely pay my bills on-time, I can be really evil when someone crosses me, I act like I am holier than thou but usually I’m not, I often say no to plans with friends because I don’t really like them and would prefer to be by myself, etc.” You get the point. Anything you would not want this other person to find out about, include it in your list!<br /><br />Once you’ve come up with a complete list, you’re going to turn it around and write a letter that starts out with, “What I do want you to know about me is…” and then list everything you listed in the first letter. So using the example above, it would look like this: “What I do want you to know about me is that I have cellulite on my thighs, I rarely pay my bills on-time, I can be really evil when someone crosses me, I act like I am holier than thou but usually I’m not, I often say no to plans with friends because I don’t really like them and would prefer to be by myself, etc.” List everything you listed in the first example, but this time approach it from a stance of <em>wanting</em> to share this information with the other person. (Don’t worry, you never have to share this letter with anyone if you don’t want to! This is just an exercise to help *you* in loving yourself.)<br /><br />This can be an easy or difficult exercise, depending on how much you currently accept yourself and how in touch with your “darker” places you are. Some of you may have several things to list, whereas others of you may just have a few places inside that you haven’t fully come to terms with yet. If uncomfortable feelings come up while you do this exercise (which is completely normal!), then just take some time to simply be with yourself and be with the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that arise. You may find yourself thinking things like, “I would be horrified if he ever knew that about me! He would leave me in a heartbeat.” or “There’s no way I could ever tell her I did that. She would never look at me the same again.” Simply notice the thoughts passing through your mind and the sensations you feel in your body. You don’t have to do anything with them except notice them. If you meditate then you know the power of watching your thoughts and feelings float by and not getting caught up in them. <br /><br />After you’ve taken some time to simply be with yourself, and with the thoughts and feelings that arise from doing this exercise, I think you’ll feel much more at peace with the aspects of yourself that you previously thought were so unlovable. You may even actually find yourself loving them and appreciating them! <font color=#DF0174><b>Let's all learn how to love ourselves once and for all, and make 2010 the year of self-love.</font color></b> <br /><br /><br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/s/link-enhancer?tag=selhelgod-20&o=1"><br /></script><br /><noscript><br /> <img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/s/noscript?tag=selhelgod-20" alt="" /><br /></noscript>Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-77954506045173955042009-12-08T08:18:00.000-08:002009-12-08T09:13:29.768-08:00Finding Love on a Spiritual Path<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRJ6Xy5InsavdkevFEirjccqGMBe-6xofxltwIkgNgZ8YURW-gXS2DQovakDaPzldK0qu9dwdIfhM8PgzXmP9IsvKOagOUhdAO88BLBkLHCoYXaVMt-4982JK2JInkdlqS7gXjil9gDYM/s1600-h/1541_BuddhaDated_D.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 151px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRJ6Xy5InsavdkevFEirjccqGMBe-6xofxltwIkgNgZ8YURW-gXS2DQovakDaPzldK0qu9dwdIfhM8PgzXmP9IsvKOagOUhdAO88BLBkLHCoYXaVMt-4982JK2JInkdlqS7gXjil9gDYM/s200/1541_BuddhaDated_D.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5412913122412568402" /></a><br />I’m currently reading the book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0140195831?ie=UTF8&tag=selhelgod-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0140195831">If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=selhelgod-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0140195831" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" /><br> by Charlotte Kasl, which is a great read for anyone trying to introduce more love and spirituality in their life. She has a version for married couples, as well. I’ve been wanting to read this book for awhile now, and I'm glad I picked it up! <br /><br />This is not your typical dating book that describes how to attract someone by acting according to certain rules, dressing a certain way, or playing a particular part. Instead, the basis of this book is that <em><strong>the only way to ever truly attract a genuine spiritual partnership into your life is to love and accept ALL of yourself (yes, even those parts that you don’t particularly like!) and allow your partner to love and accept those sides of yourself as well. </strong></em>With the divorce rate being as high as it is today, I would venture to say that most marriages and relationships are NOT founded on this premise! Instead, relationships are usually more about finding someone to "complete you," to fill up the holes in your life, and to take the blame if you're not happy. What about taking responsibility for your own happiness, though? <br /><br />I’ve been in my fair share of relationships where both of us did our best to show the other person how desirable we were, while blatantly hiding and denying any “negative” characteristics of ourselves that might find their way into the relationship. And if we did ever expose any “dark” sides of ourselves, it certainly wasn’t our fault! It was always the other person’s fault for causing us to act in such an ugly way. Ultimately, though, relationships like these never work because sooner or later the less-than-perfect aspects of ourselves always show up, whether we like it or not. At that point, either person A begins to run away so person B doesn’t see their "dark" places, or person B pulls away because they are uncomfortable with the dark places person A is showing (not accepting, of course, that they have their own dark places as well!).<br /><br />I’ve known since I was a very little girl that I don’t want just any marriage. I want a deeply spiritual, life <em>partnership</em>, in which I am free to be me, ALL of me. Obviously, this also means that I will support my partner in being all that he is, good, bad, and ugly! Sure, we’d all love to live in a perfect world where we're always happy, constantly loving and kind, faithfully living our true purpose, etc., but most of us are not living in that world on a daily basis, myself included. I have very up days, and I also have very down days, very scared days, and very angry days. I’d love to have a partner who sticks by my side and supports me, even on the “off” days. <strong>Personally, I find it very attractive when a man can admit he’s scared or feeling weak or powerless, no matter how macho he may appear on the outside!</strong><br /><br />In light of the recent Tiger Woods saga, it seems especially important to remember what’s important in keeping a solid relationship together. Even with all the money in the world, good looks, unmatched career success, and a beautiful wife and kids at home, Tiger’s life and marriage is obviously not all it’s cracked up to be. I wonder how much of his situation comes from a reluctance to show and admit weaker sides of himself because he's trying so desperately to present an image of perfection to the world. I definitely remember seeing photos of his wedding and thinking to myself, "Wow, he really has it all!" It seems that in his quest to uphold his image of a perfect life, something went seriously wrong.<br /><br /><strong>It takes a lot to open up to those parts in ourselves that may be particularly scary or painful. </strong> In fact, some of us may have hidden those parts of ourselves so deeply inside that we begin to uncover emotional scars still lurking from when we were five years old! It can be a bit startling to realize that something that happened to you when you were five years old is sabotaging your current relationships. The trick is in learning to practice compassion and kindness for yourself, and accepting yourself for <em>being human</em>. We all have good points and bad points, strengths and weaknesses, and successes and failures. Learning to make friends with all the various places in yourself and accepting them will not only allow you to develop a much stronger relationship with yourself, but will help you in attracting a spiritual partner who will also love you for all your good points and bad points! <br /><br /><br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/s/link-enhancer?tag=selhelgod-20&o=1"><br /></script><br /><noscript><br /> <img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/s/noscript?tag=selhelgod-20" alt="" /><br /></noscript>Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-49129922457983500922009-12-02T12:47:00.000-08:002009-12-02T13:30:30.458-08:00How Do You See Yourself?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0PXnvrzxNTvkPTPF7WJw6rQRbKev8pBdzAQXL4IcoCE78XwXvkwQXF48ZmSbAEAFnOkqR1dkq10snDfNrg-Lhu_N9De9NAf7OUoPc2si_h6xarEmcmLHa6uGTiC93oHkuiEFvd6NZvFc/s1600-h/self-image-+large.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 176px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0PXnvrzxNTvkPTPF7WJw6rQRbKev8pBdzAQXL4IcoCE78XwXvkwQXF48ZmSbAEAFnOkqR1dkq10snDfNrg-Lhu_N9De9NAf7OUoPc2si_h6xarEmcmLHa6uGTiC93oHkuiEFvd6NZvFc/s200/self-image-+large.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5410751721322907042" /></a><br /><em>"Do not wait for the proof that you can be, do, or have what you want. BE it now in your mind." </em>~Eva Gregory<br /><br />Let me ask you a question: How do you see yourself? No, I don’t mean when you look in the mirror or see a picture of yourself (despite the picture above!), but when you really look inside and see yourself in your mind's eye. If you were able to look down upon yourself from somewhere up in the sky, would you see yourself as happy, elated, and living the life of your dreams? Or do you see someone who’s angry, miserable, and can never catch a break? <strong>How you answer that question has a lot to do with the current circumstances of your life and the results you experience on a day-to-day basis!</strong> <br /><br />If you see yourself as someone who always succeeds and makes things work, then you’re probably more open to taking risks and have a way of making things happen in your life. However, if you see yourself as more of a victim for whom things never work out, then you’re probably less likely to take chances or if you do, you might subconsciously sabotage yourself so that things always end up looking like a failure. <br /><br />Try the following exercise and see what happens:<br /><br />Find a quiet spot where you can sit or lie quietly undisturbed for a few minutes. Take a few deep breaths, and allow yourself to completely relax and release all tension from your body. Next, imagine yourself flowing out of your body and looking down upon yourself from somewhere up in the sky. Just use your imagination for this, and pretend that you can look down on yourself. Pick a few different scenes from your daily life and observe yourself from above. <br /><br />What do you see? Are you happy and filled with joy as you go about your life, or sad and lonely? Are you open and welcoming to others, or closed off and hiding behind layers of emotional walls? How do you look and act in different scenarios and surrounded by different people? Be sure to “observe yourself” from above especially in those areas where you regularly experience difficulties in life, i.e. work, relationships, family, etc.<br /><br /><em>Remember, whatever vibe or energy we send out into the world is multiplied by the law of attraction and creates the results we experience in our lives. </em> If you’ve been having difficulty with a particular situation for awhile now, see if this exercise helps you see what vibe you are sending out to the Universe. Sometimes the way we are seen by others and the Universe as a whole is completely different than how we perceive ourselves (both in good ways and in bad!).<br /><br />David Cameron Gikandi says, “Life is images of the mind, expressed. What this means is that Life, The Source, uses your thoughts, your mental images, as the instructions by which to create your reality in the material world. Life expresses your mental images into physical reality.” <strong>Whatever you are focused on in your mind and how you see yourself determines what you create in your existence. <br /> </strong><br />The good news is, if you don’t like the way you see yourself or if your self-image doesn't line up with what you are trying to create in life, you can easily change it! Instead of seeing yourself as someone who can never make a relationship work, hates their job, and can never get ahead financially, use the power of your imagination to see yourself as someone who is married to your perfect partner, succeeding in your dream career, and making more than enough money to take vacations to exotic locales (or whatever appeals to you). For even faster results, visualize yourself living your ideal life for 15 minutes a day and in no time at all you'll be living a brand new life! <br /><br />To learn more about the power of visualization be sure to check out my ebook, <em><a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelpebook.html">Secrets to Creating Your Ideal Life</a></em>. You will learn why visualization is so crucial in creating a life that makes you excited to jump out of bed every single morning!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-85614568156297963592009-11-19T08:04:00.000-08:002009-11-19T11:58:16.916-08:00Dissolving Your Blocks to Success<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvKv2YDJNVQO8K_1tA7oySgdq-sjZCM2he8melIcU_4E_WjfPkxVYq9W32gYFGtsFyckDWwAI9Ft6jWSHnEQXbpDiiZPz7_WgqEId6vHUftbr2usNAiqFOe24PxTjuqnkDlK-yJ34IeZQ/s1600/success_ladder.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 172px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvKv2YDJNVQO8K_1tA7oySgdq-sjZCM2he8melIcU_4E_WjfPkxVYq9W32gYFGtsFyckDWwAI9Ft6jWSHnEQXbpDiiZPz7_WgqEId6vHUftbr2usNAiqFOe24PxTjuqnkDlK-yJ34IeZQ/s200/success_ladder.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5405882696933138242" /></a><br />I participated in a personal growth workshop recently and one of the exercises we did was a guided visualization, in which we were asked to visualize receiving a gift or important message that we particularly need at this time. While I didn’t see anything during the visualization in terms of an actual, physical gift, the following four words came to me repeatedly throughout: <br><font color=#FF0099><b>Allow</font color></b>, <font color=#00CCCC><b>Embrace</b></font color>, <b><font color=#CC66FF>Include</b></font color> and <b><font color=#66CCFF>Integrate</b></font color>. Obviously these words could mean entirely different things to different people, but for me these words spoke really clearly to me in terms of <em>dissolving blocks to success</em>. <br /><br />I think it’s safe to say that when it comes to the blocks that each of us have that get in the way of achieving success (whatever that looks like for you: wealth, ideal career, self-confidence, etc.), most of us would do anything we can to get rid of these blocks. We figure that the block is what's holding us back from getting what we want, so we must eliminate and destroy it at all costs!! There are a TON of ways we do this, but the goal is always to label the block as "wrong" and try to wipe it out completely. <br /><br />But what if instead of trying so desperately to get rid of these blocks or get them out of the way, we actually invite them into our awareness, thereby <font color=#FF0099><b><em>allowing</em></font color></b> them, <font color=#00CCCC><b><em>embracing</em></b></font color> them, <b><font color=#CC66FF><em>including</em></b></font color> them and <b><font color=#66CCFF><em>integrating</em></b></font color> them into our experience. Rather than doing everything in our power to destroy them, what if we acknowledge and accept them, explore them, and even consider learning from them!<br /><br />If you subscribe to my <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelp-newsletter.html">newsletter</a>, then you know I’ve been on a self-love kick lately. What better way to increase our <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/self-love.html">self-love</a> than to love ALL of ourselves, blocks and all! Try out this exercise the next time you feel stuck and let me know what you think. I think you’ll really like it:)<br /><br />Think of something you are currently trying to achieve in life, but are having trouble accomplishing. It could be your ideal relationship, your desired weight, a promotion at work, anything that is important to you right now. Got something? Now imagine that whatever is holding you back is an actual <em>feeling</em> in your body. Even if you’ve never thought of it this way before, do so now. This means that you can’t blame your stuckness on the economy, or a stubborn spouse, or an ignorant boss. <font color=#FF0099><b>Go ahead and imagine that whatever is holding you back from achieving your desire is an actual feeling or sensation in your body, and figure out where in your body that feeling is.</font color> </b><br /><br />Once you’ve located that feeling, take some time to really get in touch with it and get to know it as best as you can. For example, how big is it? Does it have a color, and if so, what it is? What texture is it? Does it feel heavy and dense or light and airy? Does it change shape and move around while you observe it, or stay stationary in one spot? Keep exploring this feeling and learning as much about it as possible! Instead of trying so hard to completely destroy this block, <font color=#00CCCC><b>see what happens if you take some time to familiarize with it and find out what it’s all about.</font color></b><br /><br />Next, take this one step further and see if you can reach out from within you and actually give this feeling a hug! This can feel a bit strange since it’s just a feeling and not a concrete person or thing, but try this anyway and you’ll be amazed at <em>how much better </em>you feel once you make friends with your block. You may even want to try imagining that you’re taking your block for a walk in the park, or that you’re on a swing set swinging back and forth with it. <font color=#9966FF><br /><b>Have fun with this!</b> </font color><br /> <br /><font color=#66CCFF><b>Instead of running away from feelings that seem uncomfortable or burdensome, we can learn to make peace with them and accept them as they are.</font color></b> Once this happens, not only will you feel a lot better as a whole, but you’ll probably find that the feeling you were trying so desperately to get rid of actually dissolves all on its own! You may go looking for it and find that it's no longer anywhere to be found! "Whatever we resists persists,” so when we resist something we keep our attention focused on it and keep it stuck firmly in place. When you stop resisting something, however, and make friends with it or simply allow it to be there, you'll be pleasantly surprised to find that it usually takes a hike all by itself. Once that happens, your success is <em>right around the corner</em>. :)Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-85277656781616624172009-11-11T10:36:00.000-08:002009-11-12T08:27:56.794-08:00"Money Mojo Magic"<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_hRFKuIuhHG9CkqpfYXyuq3GqOrKSr_9HDPptkv-9dqh-rKDt21Bz4NVoDo6aLUoxsJ_DhN6yebtpMogDQn5ThhE1oGbkV8Pf_Xdy0P7OedmS1sajyia4_793S7vp3qRAVm8QoPFORg0/s1600-h/JM-MMM-Group-4.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 157px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_hRFKuIuhHG9CkqpfYXyuq3GqOrKSr_9HDPptkv-9dqh-rKDt21Bz4NVoDo6aLUoxsJ_DhN6yebtpMogDQn5ThhE1oGbkV8Pf_Xdy0P7OedmS1sajyia4_793S7vp3qRAVm8QoPFORg0/s200/JM-MMM-Group-4.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403250514684735986" /></a><br />Ever since I started my website, the two questions I’m constantly asked are, <b><font color=#9933CC>“How do I create more money in my life?”</font color></b> and <b><font color=#FFCC00>“How can I find my ideal partner?”</font color></b> I’ve got several relationship resources listed on my <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selfhelprelationship.html">site</a> (including a few new ones), but if you’re looking to increase the amount of cash flowing into your life, look no further! Occasionally I’ll be highlighting specific resources on this blog that I think are particularly effective, and this is one of those times.<br /><br /><strong><a href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=944064">Money Mojo Magic</a></strong>, by Jeannette Maw, is one of the best products I’ve seen in a <em>long </em>time for attracting money into your experience, and I’ve seen a lot. I literally started making more money the exact same day I read the ebook! (It’s a quick read, so it won’t be long before you start noticing results, too). Even though I've been studying this stuff for years, somehow this program helped me grasp money creation in a whole new way. And it's a lot easier than we've all been told! <br /><br />Jeannette is a highly-regarded master law of attraction coach, and as a result this program comes entirely from a law of attraction stance. Therefore, just to be clear, this is not a program that talks about the actual steps to take in the real world to increase money, like investing in the stock market, or saving a certain amount every month. There are plenty of resources out there for that! Instead, this product addresses the real cause of all your money struggles or successes: <em>your mindset and your overall vibe regarding money</em>. <br /><br /><strong>The truth is, until you get your beliefs and energy lined up with attracting more money into your life, all the “real-world” actions you take just won’t help.</strong> Any money you might make will eventually slip through your fingers and you’ll be right back where you started! This explains why professional athletes and lottery winners typically lose all their money within two years of receiving it. Until you've prepared yourself internally for large amounts of money, you won't see large amounts of money on the outside, no matter how many jobs you work, how much you save, or how much you invest. <br /><br />I’ve been actively practicing the law of attraction since way before the movie "The Secret" came out, and I can tell you that <em>it works</em>. Whenever I start putting more energy, attention, and focus on creating more money, my bank balance increases. Conversely, when I start worrying about losing money or not making enough, that’s exactly when unexpected expenses pop up or I find myself shopping more than normal! <a href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=944064"><b>Money Mojo Magic</a></b> helps explain the upper limit phenomenon, which is at the heart of this problem. You'll also love this product because it shows you how to use the law of attraction to create other things in life besides money, like your ideal relationship, more energy, great health, your dream home, etc. <br /><br />To learn more about how to change your results with money once and for all, go <b><a href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=944064">here</a></b>. A workbook is included to help you uncover your current patterns, as well an hour-long audio. You will love Jeannette’s high energy and infectious laugh!Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-16330176745765247082009-11-09T18:14:00.000-08:002009-11-09T18:41:16.668-08:00Self-Love Saturdays!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiSW26M8NtIptol7ypQsTNl_dLCuZv4ReIZNZixyyi4_fyTzmfTUwvsrTG3qlDWErjnF00bvu7i0Ga3dv3AGRcOsyIk-qfLYJh1HUkJtdQnU7FdKtG226rjCRWl0iFinliMiSZ06tK2R0/s1600-h/expressions_self_love-704998.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 176px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiSW26M8NtIptol7ypQsTNl_dLCuZv4ReIZNZixyyi4_fyTzmfTUwvsrTG3qlDWErjnF00bvu7i0Ga3dv3AGRcOsyIk-qfLYJh1HUkJtdQnU7FdKtG226rjCRWl0iFinliMiSZ06tK2R0/s200/expressions_self_love-704998.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5402298933405883202" /></a><br /><br />If you follow me on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/selfhelpgoddess">Twitter</a>, then you know that a few weeks ago I initiated a new tradition called <font color=#B4045F><b>Self-Love Saturdays</b></font color>! I’ve been on my own self-love kick the past couple months, and have been participating in the seven-week <a href="http://www.selflovestudio.com/">Self-Love Studio</a> teleseminar series (there's still a few weeks left to participate). The addition of Self-Love Saturdays to my life has been a perfect complement to everything else I've been doing, and I'm highly considering making it a weekly occurrence!<br /><br />For me, this basically means setting aside an entire day, just for me! I have the whole day to do whatever I like, no questions asked. On these days I’ve intentionally not made any plans, so I have the entire day for me, tending to and nurturing myself however I see fit. I’ve been doing things like napping, taking long baths, meditating, attending yoga classes, doing <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selflove-exercise.html">the mirror exercise</a>, reading, watching movies by candlelight, listening to peaceful music and soothing visualizations, etc. You get the idea! Obviously, depending on what you like to do, these things may or may not appeal to you so feel free to substitute other activities. <br /><br /><strong><font color=#B4045F>The point of having a self-love day is to create some time and space for YOU, and indulge in whatever your heart desires.</font color> </strong>For me, it is rest and relaxation. For others, it is going for a long run or playing a game of tennis that they can’t normally fit into their schedule. Some people (not me!) might feel better running tons of errands and checking things off their to-do list. <em>Whatever calls to you, that’s what you do on your self-love day.</em><br /><br />By setting aside an entire day for yourself (or even an hour if that’s all you have), you are signaling to both yourself and the Universe that you are important and that you are making yourself a priority. <strong>Remember, the way we treat ourselves is the way the world around us will treat us, so the higher we value ourselves the higher everyone else will value us! </strong>If you have a family or children it may be unrealistic to dedicate an entire day to yourself, but I still encourage you to slip away for an hour or two if you can and devote that time to yourself. An on-the-go yoga class or a quick walk in the park will do wonders for your soul!<br /><br />Above all, it’s important on your self-love day to periodically check in with yourself to make sure that what you’re doing is what your body needs at the time. You may have set aside time to take a nap or read a book, but then realize that what your body actually needs is a walk outside in the fresh air. Be flexible and open to changing your plans! Again, this is all about you and giving yourself whatever you need. <font color=#B4045F><b>No questions asked and no guilt allowed.</font color></b> :)<br /><br />For additional resources to help increase the amount of self-love in your life, be sure to go <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/self-love.html">here</a>.Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-22159647726510472292009-11-03T17:24:00.000-08:002009-11-03T17:50:20.837-08:00Writing a Letter from Your Future Self<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJgSUT8J8OPngRpaKuaORd0NFo4TopTI0O3ymzJej1KDgW24EfpDNLwgk1SVKiuNAWS0DOT8Jd6MCG7cl1zD5wyxi2tvCi_ruRbZBlkuUfS8IUJbwunFmWyHuMHsyhV7pX3OJwfzMo31k/s1600-h/letter_writi_24714_md.gif"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJgSUT8J8OPngRpaKuaORd0NFo4TopTI0O3ymzJej1KDgW24EfpDNLwgk1SVKiuNAWS0DOT8Jd6MCG7cl1zD5wyxi2tvCi_ruRbZBlkuUfS8IUJbwunFmWyHuMHsyhV7pX3OJwfzMo31k/s200/letter_writi_24714_md.gif" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5400059422995628562" /></a><br />I’m always looking for fun and effective self-help tools and techniques that will allow me to create my ideal life and manifest everything I could possibly desire, and I recently stumbled upon the exercise below. This is a variation of an old tool I’ve heard of before and I think you’ll have a lot of fun with this! Thanks to Apryl Jensen at <a href="http://www.creatingconsciously.com">www.creatingconsciously.com</a> for this fabulous idea.<br /><br />The instructions are simple, but don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this exercise. This is powerful stuff that can truly help you create the life of your dreams!<br /><br /><b><font color=#FF0066>You’re going to write a letter to a friend or family member from ten years in the future, as if everything you are hoping will come true in the next ten years of your life has <em>already come true</em>.</b></font color> You're not going to actually send this letter (although you can if you want!), so pick anyone you feel comfortable with that you want to address this letter to. Once you've selected that individual, write a letter to them as if you haven't seen them in the past ten years and want to catch them up on everything wonderful that has been going on in your life. Tell them about all the amazing success you've had and all the goals you've accomplished since you last spoke with them.<br /><br />For example, if you’re hoping to be married with children, write the letter as if you are already married with children and give the names and ages of your children. If you’re hoping to open a business or be financially free, write the letter from the standpoint of those things having already come to pass in your life. You might write about your booming business and describe all the fabulous vacations abroad you've taken!<br /><br />Not only will this allow you to get in touch with what your goals and dreams are, but by writing them down you are actually increasing the odds that they’ll manifest in your reality! <strong>Research has shown time and time again that people who write down their goals are much more likely to achieve them than people who don’t.</strong><br /><br />If you already have a ten-year plan and know what you hope to achieve in the next ten years, great! You can go ahead and get started on your letter right away. If you’re like me, though, and haven’t put much thought into your five and ten-year plans, you may want to spend some time in meditation or do some journaling to get in touch with your deepest desires and uncover what you hope to see happen over the next several years of your life. Deciding what you want to happen is actually the most difficult part of the exercise. Sitting down and writing it is the fun part!<br /><br /><em>The key to this exercise is to use as much detail as possible and really get into it.</em> It’s okay if you don’t know all the details of what you want to happen, just allow yourself to have fun with this. Start with what you already know and new ideas will surely come to you once you begin writing. Describe who will be in your life, where you will be living, what sort of career you have, what your financial situation is like, what you do for fun, etc. Be sure to include anything and everything that is important to you!<br /><br />If the thought of writing this letter seems a bit daunting to you, you’re in good company. This exercise is actually a little frightening to me, because I know how effective this sort of tool is! Anyone who has done any <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/prayrainjournal.html">pray rain journaling</a> knows how quickly goals come to pass when you write them down as if they have already happened. Don’t be surprised if in ten years everything you wrote in your letter has come to pass exactly as you said it would. ;)Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6420983000885677591.post-20998792324322168782009-10-14T11:45:00.000-07:002009-10-14T12:47:28.596-07:00Keeping a Love Journal<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEidqp7PBPUoRBWpitSLQ1bt1IYm2MR3gNJPh6FXxWLt2DRuOd6O7qip5h9-fcHJYz_E9G-B9z7j5580wV2A6HluZq3lSnMBGdf0QPzBcdoCCErYP95ARau5HmRUT_YqmifkR8ocLMDGWtM/s1600-h/love+journal.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 152px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEidqp7PBPUoRBWpitSLQ1bt1IYm2MR3gNJPh6FXxWLt2DRuOd6O7qip5h9-fcHJYz_E9G-B9z7j5580wV2A6HluZq3lSnMBGdf0QPzBcdoCCErYP95ARau5HmRUT_YqmifkR8ocLMDGWtM/s200/love+journal.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5392539080209207234" /></a><br />One of my favorite techniques for creating my ideal life and making things happen is keeping an <a href="http://blog.selfhelpgoddess.com/2009/09/self-help-best-practices.html">evidence journal (see #7)</a>. This is a journal in which you record evidence that whatever it is you are desiring is on its way to you. Not only does this help you keep your thoughts and feelings positive and in a good vibration, but it also speeds up your manifestation because it keeps you focused on what you are trying to create!<br /><br />I have so much fun keeping evidence journals that awhile back I decided to create an evidence journal with a twist... I started keeping a <font color=FF0033><b>love journal</font color></b>! Instead of listing all the evidence that a particular goal or thing is on its way to me, I list all the ways I am loved. And let me tell you, I have more love in my life than I ever realized! <br /><br />To keep a <font color=FF0033><b>love journal</font color></b>, all you need is a journal, a pen, and the willingness to open yourself up to more love then you ever imagined was possible! Every day at the end of the day, preferably right before going to bed, take out your journal and list 5-10 things that demonstrate how loved you really are. Not only will this show you how much love is already present in your life, but thanks to the law of attraction it will also allow you to start attracting even more love into your life! (Remember, whatever you focus on expands...)<br /><br />Although you can certainly list ways that you feel loved by your significant other, you also want to focus on other ways you feel loved in general. Have fun with this and really let your imagination run wild with all the various ways you are loved. You can list ways you feel loved by individual people, your pets, random strangers, the Universe, God or your Higher Power, life as a whole, etc. <br /><br />Some examples might be:<br /><br /><b><font color=#FF0066>• That person at the bank let me go in front of them today. </font color><br />• My significant other brought flowers home unexpectedly.<br /><font color=#FF0066>• My dog gave me sloppy kisses at the end of the day.</font color><br />• I got a raise and promotion at work! <br /><br /></b>To really amp up your <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/self-love.html"><b>self-love</b></a>, be sure to list ways you love yourself as well, like: <br /><br /><b><font color=#FF0066>• I allowed myself to indulge in a warm bubble bath after work. </font color><br />• I didn't beat myself up for missing my workout this morning.<br /><font color=#FF0066>• I did the mirror exercise every day this week.</font color></b><br>(see article <a href="http://www.selfhelpgoddess.com/selflove-exercise.html">here</a> for description of the mirror exercise)<br /><br />Again, really allow yourself to get creative with all the different ways you are loved. Also, feel free to decorate the cover of your journal if it helps you get in the spirit! <br /><br /><b>Keep doing this exercise regularly and I think you will be astonished by how loved you really are, no matter what is currently going on in your life!</b>Self Help Goddesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17743955832663988451noreply@blogger.com2